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Pioneering pro-golfer Tadd Fujikawa completely rips apart the ‘stigma and shame’ of being gay and Asian

Nick Duffy April 15, 2020
US golfer Tadd Fujikawa.

US golfer Tadd Fujikawa. (Photo by Stan Badz/PGA TOUR)

Professional golfer Tadd Fujikawa has spoken about the struggles of being “gaysian”.

The US golfer, who became the first male professional golfer to come out as gay in 2018, opened up in a lengthy Instagram post about the struggles and stigma he has faced.

He wrote: “There’s such a stigma about being gay in Asian families. For a lot of us it’s really looked down upon. It’s probably one of the worst things we could be.

“I’m sure it’s similar in many cultures. But being gay makes us viewed as we are ‘lesser’. In most Asian families, especially as a man, you DO NOT bring shame or embarrassment.

“You’re expected to bring honour to the family.  You’re expected to be ‘masculine’ and strong. Being a gay man negates any of that.”

Many people are kicked out or beaten because of their sexuality, Tadd Fujikawa says.

The golfer continued: “Gay/queer/LGBT+ representation is so important to change perspectives and beliefs on sexuality in our culture.

“I’ve heard about many people who have been kicked out, disowned, beaten, etc, because of their sexuality.

“While it may not immediately change how ‘traditional’ families view homosexuality, over time we have the ability to change the lives of so many LGBT+ people/youth just by being visible.”

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There's such a stigma about being gay in Asian familes. For a lot of us it's really looked down upon. It's probably one of the worst things we could be. I'm sure it's similar in many cultures. But being gay makes us viewed as we are “lesser”. In most asian families, especially as a man, you DO NOT bring shame or embarrassment. You're expected to bring honor to the family. You're expected to be "masculine" and strong. Being a gay man negates any of that. Gay/Queer/LGBTQ+ representation is so important to change perspectives and beliefs on sexuality in our culture. I've heard about many people who have been kicked out, disowned, beaten, etc. because of their sexuality. While it may not immediately change how "traditional" families view homosexuality, over time we have the ability to change the lives of so many LGBTQ+ people/youth just by being visible. I'm proud to be gay. And I'm proud to be Asian. I hope other openly gay Asians like myself can be of an inspiration for others to live authentically. That being said, everyone's journey is different and you need to analyze the situation you're in. The consequences of coming out or living an openly gay lifestyle could be very detrimental. Your safety needs to be assessed as well as your mental health. In all of this…just remember that you are not alone. It's a process. Take your time with yourself and never feel bad or ashamed for doing what is best for you. THIS IS YOUR LIFE. LIVE IT. ♥️🏳️‍🌈 @thegaysianproject • • #gaysian selfie #smile #professional #golfer #golf #athlete #asian #life #love #home #hawaii #oahu #travel #adventure #pride #visibility #inspiration #gay #instagay #gayguy #gayboy #inclusion #lgbtq #advocate #activist #instagram #influencer

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Golfer says LGBT+ Asian representation is important to change beliefs.

Fujikawa added: “I’m proud to be gay. And I’m proud to be Asian. I hope other openly gay Asians like myself can be of an inspiration for others to live authentically. That being said, everyone’s journey is different and you need to analyse the situation you’re in.

“The consequences of coming out or living an openly gay lifestyle could be very detrimental. Your safety needs to be assessed as well as your mental health. In all of this… just remember that you are not alone. It’s a process.

“Take your time with yourself and never feel bad or ashamed for doing what is best for you. THIS IS YOUR LIFE. LIVE IT.”

Tadd Fujikawa of the United States in Honolulu, Hawaii.
Tadd Fujikawa of the United States in Honolulu, Hawaii. (Photo by Sam Greenwood/Getty Images)

One person responded: “Please know you do not bring shame – instead you bring hope and inspiration not only to your family but your entire LGBT+ family around the world.”

Another added: “So well said and what an important and beautiful message. I hope everyone hears it.”

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