Ask the Aunties: Coming out as gay in school
Coming out at school can require a huge leap of faith—as well as a support network to help if you face stigma, bullying or fallouts with friends. So, when is the right time to come out?
In this episode of Ask the Aunties, gay agony aunts Lee Gray and Karnage Kills share their experiences of coming out in school—and what they actually got up to in the “drama room.”
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Coming out at school: The dilemma
The dilemma, sent in anonymously from a student, says: “Me and my friend are the only gay people at school.
“Do you think we should set up a LGBT group? It would mean outing myself so I’m not sure if I’m ready.”
Ask the Aunties: Their response
“Start that group, take over the school,” says Lee. “That’s what I wanted to do when I was at school because I knew I was gay for a very long, long time.
“I actually feel like it’s the best thing that you can do because if you and your friend are gay, there might be other queer people in the school who need that support group.”
Karnage, however, disagrees.
“Secondary school is not the place. Kids are very mean and when you come out, you can’t go back in.
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“When I was at school I was never out the closet and I used to fight a lot to make sure I never got bullied.
“There was one kid that was out and at that time I knew I was gay but I wasn’t saying anything.
“He was out and everyone used to bully him severely. I’m so thankful I waited til I left school.”
Lee disagreed: “I would refuse to let the ignorance take over.”
Ask the Aunties is an original PinkNews series. From how to deal with homophobic parents to coming out as pansexual and questioning whether there is ever a right age to realise you are LGBT+, no dilemma is left unanswered.
The previous episode answered a dilemma from a lesbian facing some wedding drama as she tries to figure out whether the concept of marriage is just too “heteronormative” or if she can stomach the ceremony for the woman she is madly in love with.