Ask the Aunties: I think I am gay. How do I know for sure?
In a new episode of the PinkNews series Ask the Aunties, our fabulous queer agony aunts answer your questions and one of the biggest out there is: How do I know if I’m gay?
Queer agony aunts Lee Gray and Karnage Kills respond to a dilemma sent in from a 13-year-old guy looking for advice to help figure out his sexuality.
The dilemma: Am I gay?
In the last episode, a queer person worried about going home for the holidays wrote in asking if they should bother spending time with homophobic relatives, or do their own thing instead.
Figuring out whether you are LGBT+ and then coming out to friends, or working out the best way to begin telling your parents what you’re going through, can be tough.
In the episode, a young person has written into our agony aunties to ask how they realised they were gay.
“I would say I realised I was gay maybe at the beginning of secondary school.”
— Agony aunt Lee Gray
The reader’s dilemma read: “I’m 13 and lately I’ve been wondering if I like guys.
“How did you know you were gay?”
Ask the Aunties: Our response
“Well I was sleeping one night and I woke up to a bright light and at the end of the bed was a gay fairy,” Karnage laughed.
“In all seriousness, I don’t know. I feel like I’ve always known.
“I used to have girlfriends but more so to impress the men in my family. I would never really do anything too drastic with them and then I was always looking at the boys in my classroom, and thinking: ‘Oh my gosh, he’s so fit’.”
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Lee said: “With me, it was almost like I was told before I even knew I was gay.
“I had that at the back of my mind because you start to question it, and I would say I realised I was gay maybe at the beginning of secondary school.
“I certainly knew I was gay when I was in the drama room and some of the things you shouldn’t be doing in the drama room—method acting,” he laughed.
Watch the video above to see all of the Aunties’ stories and advice.
The previous episode answered a dilemma from a queer person worried about going home for the holidays to biphobic relatives.
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