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Tom Daley reveals heartbreaking moment when he thought he couldn’t have kids

Josh Jackman July 30, 2018
LONDON, ENGLAND - NOVEMBER 30: Host and diver Tom Daley attends the Team GB Ball at Battersea Evolution on November 30, 2016 in London, England. (Photo by Jeff Spicer/Getty Images)

Daley came out in 2013 (Jeff Spicer/Getty)

Tom Daley has revealed he thought he wouldn’t be able to have children when he came out – and was devastated by it.

The Olympic medallist and his husband, Academy Award-winning screenwriter Dustin Lance Black, became fathers in June to a son, Robbie Ray Black-Daley, a year after they tied the knot.

But in an interview with The Guardian, the 24-year-old diver admitted that he had no idea it was possible to start a family when, in 2013, he came out on YouTube.

BUDAPEST, HUNGARY - JULY 17:  Tom Daley of Great Britain competes during the Men's Diving 10M Synchro Platform, preliminary round on day four of the Budapest 2017 FINA World Championships on July 17, 2017 in Budapest, Hungary.  (Photo by Laurence Griffiths/Getty Images)
As of June, the diver is a father-of-one (Laurence Griffiths/Getty)

He was 19 then, but had already started preparing for fatherhood. The star explained: “I’ve been shopping for baby clothes for six years, since before I met Lance, since I was 17 or 18.

“There’s nothing I’ve ever been more sure of in my life than having a family.”

But Daley, whose dad Robert died in 2011, said he just assumed that being in a long-term relationship with a man meant giving up his dream of fathering kids.

LONDON, ENGLAND - FEBRUARY 01: Team GB Diver Tom Daley chats to the audience during Sport Industry NextGen 2018 at Village Underground on February 1, 2018 in London, England. (Photo by Charlie Crowhurst/Getty Images)
Daley won gold at the Commonwealth Games this year (Charlie Crowhurst/Getty)

“One of the things I was so mortified about, so upset about, when I came out, was that I’d never be able to have a family,” he revealed, adding that “there’s something so special about passing on what my parents have taught me to children of my own.”

Thankfully the British athlete, who spoke out against laws which criminalise homosexuality in dozens of countries when he won gold at the Commonwealth Games in April, “did more research.”

And he once again defended his and Black’s decision to have a child through a surrogate, which has come under fire from various people in the media, as well as the users of internet forum Mumsnet.

Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black (Chris Jackson/Getty)

“I always flash back to when Kanye and Kim announced they were having a baby through surrogacy,” he said.

“Apparently Kim had some kind of health issue, the first [baby] was all right, and the second, but the third would be a problem. And it was all: ‘Oh my God, isn’t she so lovely having a baby.’

“As soon as it was two men, the narrative quickly shifted. Lance said he expected the backlash to come more from the US than the British press.”

BUDAPEST, HUNGARY - JULY 22:  Tom Daley of Great Britain celebrates after he wins the gold medal during the Men's 10M Platform final on day nine of the Budapest 2017 FINA World Championships on July 22, 2017 in Budapest, Hungary.  (Photo by Clive Rose/Getty Images)
Daley celebrates winning gold at the 2017 World Championships (Clive Rose/Getty)

But despite being castigated by strangers for bringing a child into the world who he intends to love and protect as any father would, he was never in doubt about the choice he and his husband had made.

“We know we are going to love that child more than anything else in the entire world,” said Daley.

BUDAPEST, HUNGARY - JULY 22:  Tom Daley of Great Britain celebrates after he wins the gold medal during the Men's 10M Platform final on day nine of the Budapest 2017 FINA World Championships on July 22, 2017 in Budapest, Hungary.  (Photo by Clive Rose/Getty Images)
Daley has wanted children since he was a teenager (Clive Rose/Getty)

“As a same-sex couple, we have to really want a child to make that child happen. There’s no glass of wine and a pizza, and then the next day, oh my goodness, I’m pregnant.

“You have to really want it.”

More: Children, dustin lance black, family, Gay, olympics, parents, sport, tom daley, UK

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