‘I am having much less sex than I did in my early 20s’ says Olly Alexander in candid interview

Olly Alexander has said that he is “having much less sex” than he did in his early twenties in a candid interview with The Guardian.

The Years & Years star has said that he is juggling the potential of an eternal single life after his search for Mr Right has proven to be more difficult that expected.

“I’m having much less sex than I did in my early 20s, for sure,” he said to Guardian Weekend.

“The last few months I’ve been wondering, ‘Will I just be alone, for ever? And would I be OK with that?’ I want to be OK with that.”

Although Alexander tried to meet men through the likes of Grindr, he explained that no-one believed he was who he said he was.

“That didn’t go very well,” said the star.

“The longer you’re single, the more you notice how everyone else is in a relationship. But that’s a whole other thing,” he added.

Pensive about his relationship with his father, the star spoke about how their seven-year silence has contributed to how he perceives relationships.

“I guess at its heart it’s just not really being able to trust someone who says they love you. If that’s something that’s ingrained in you, then I think it’s hard to get past that.”


Alexander is a trailblazing queer icon.

As well as appearing in starring roles in the likes of God Help The Girl, he also presented a moving documentary entitled Growing Up Gay for the BBC’s Gay Britannia season, which celebrated the anniversary of the partial decriminalisation of homosexuality.

When the band first broke into the scene, Alexander shared that he was advised to stay in the closet for the benefit of his career.

“One afternoon I met a very nice lady whose job was to help us answer questions in interviews – give us tips, tell us what journalists might try to trip us up on. I asked her what she thought about me being gay.

“She said, with very good intentions I’m sure: Why does anybody need to know about your sexuality? What business is it who you go to bed with? Do you really want to invite personal questions like that? Maybe it’s better to not say anything about your sexuality at all.”

He added: “I ignored her advice.”