His daughter asked ‘is that a boy or a girl’, he responded amazingly

Joseph McCormick September 24, 2015
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A transgender waitress has shared a heartwarming story about parenting – when a child asked “is that a boy or a girl?”

Minneapolis waitress Liv Hnilicka shared the story on her Facebook page, which has since been widely shared.


Hnilicka said she was waiting on a family in the restaurant she works in, when the dad came up to her and said his child had asked “if you were a boy or a girl”.

What happened next is pretty special.

She wrote: “This afternoon I was at my waitressing job on a beautiful early fall afternoon. Two parents and their young daughter came in; the tall burly dad adorably scratching his back on the door as they walked in. As I was filling the water station, he came up to me and said, ‘My daughter just asked if you were a boy or a girl. I didn’t want to speak for you so would you like to talk to her?’

“I nervously said yes and walked to their table. ‘Hi, I like your hair ribbon,; I said. ‘I heard you asked if I was a boy or girl. I think the important thing to remember is that everyone can be anything they want to be in this world. And it’s also important to try to be the best selves we can be for our family and friends. And even to strangers. So to answer your question, I was told that I was a boy when I was little and now I live my adult life as a girl. It sounds complicated but it’s actually pretty simple. Do you have any questions for me?’ She looked at me smiling and simply said, ‘Nope!’

“I walked away from the table feeling really good about parents intentionally engaging their children about possibly difficult topics. And showing that giving people the power to voice their truths in this complicated world is beautiful and healing.

“Way to go, mom and dads out there making space for transfolks/gnc people like me.”


At time of publication the post had been liked over eight thousand times, and had been shared 1,552 times.

See the original post below: 

Stellar parenting moment of the day:This afternoon I was at my waitressing job on a beautiful early fall afternoon….

Posted by Liv Hnilicka on Sunday, September 20, 2015

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