Gay seniors embrace a newfound openness

Marvin was speaking to his in November 2003. The conversation halted briefly as looked away, collecting a thought that had waited to surface.

“You know what?” he said, looking up at his doctor. “I’m .”

At age 61, married more than 30 years, this was an unlikely .

“It was the first time I’d ever put words to that,” said. “It was like an epiphany. And then I looked back on my life and said, ‘You dummy, of course you are.’ ” , now 67, grew up in Chicago, part of a conventional . He found himself interested in the — still highly taboo at the time — but resolved that he was “straight but curious.”

Conforming to the of the time, he married in his mid-20s. “I can’t really say I was madly in . This was a I knew and we had the same sets of . It seemed a good fit.”

Together they had two sons, were active in their synagogue, entertained regularly and worked through the and downs of .

“I was Mr. Straight,” said. “There were certain things in life that you do, and I would just go and do them. I was fascinated by this other world. The world had this attraction. But I just never did anything with it. It was just there.”

In the , began depression. He went into counseling and got on but could never identify the source of his . Until that day in 2003, in his ’s chair.

“My wife at first was shocked,” he said. “But she was also glad I’d finally figured out why at times I was non-functional. She’s a wonderful and was very supportive of me through all of this.”
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Fresno Hospital Bars Lesbian From Visiting Partner And Giving Advice About Her Treatment, ACLU and NCLR Urge Hospital To Adopt Policies Respecting Same-Sex Relationships

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“We just couldn’t believe this was happening to us. This was the nightmare that we hoped we’d never have to live through,” said Teresa Rowe, who grew up in Clovis, California, but now lives in the Bay Area with her of four years, Kristin Orbin. “Unfortunately, because Kristin suffers from , trips to the hospital are pretty common for us, which is why we filled out the legal paper work to make sure I would be able to be with her and make emergency about her care. But the hospital wouldn’t let me see Kristen and ignored my advice about her treatment. They ended up giving her the exact I repeatedly asked them not to give her.”

On May 29, 2009, Rowe and Orbin attended the “Meet in the Middle” in support of for same- in Fresno. After the couple completed a 14-mile march in 90 , Orbin, who suffers from , collapsed in a seizure. The couple experienced from the , but Rowe was ultimately allowed to accompany Orbin to Community in Fresno. However, when the couple got the hospital, the driver would not allow Rowe to accompany Orbin into the even though Orbin had been in and out of consciousness, and Rowe was familiar with her and care.

Rowe repeatedly asked hospital employees to allow her to see Orbin and talk to a physician about her care but was refused. She volunteered to have Orbin’s legal naming Rowe as her care agent faxed to the hospital but was told that it wouldn’t do any good. When she asked that she at least be allowed to pass along the message that Orbin not be given the drug Ativan, she was told the message would be conveyed. If the message was given to those treating Orbin, it was ignored because Orbin was given the drug, which she didn’t need and which causes her unnecessary pain. Meanwhile, when she was awake, Orbin was also asking to be allowed to see Rowe. Although they were both told that no visitors were allowed in the area where Orbin was being treated, other patients were receiving guests. After being separated for several hours, Orbin finally saw her doctor. She complained to him, and Rowe was eventually allowed to be with her.

“Until the California upheld Prop 8, Kristen and Teresa were planning to get married. In this , must be especially diligent to protect same- from ,” said , a with the of Northern California. “As these so painfully demonstrate, no matter what hoops same- jump through to protect their , these kinds of horrible things will continue to happen as long as are denied the recognition and that only comes with .”

The letter sent by the and charges that it was a violation of state law for the hospital to discriminate against the couple based on their , as well as to refuse to recognize Rowe’s , which was authorized by Orbin’s advance care directive. The letter also notes that must post and follow a patient’s bill of rights that bars based on and patients the ability to designate visitors of their choosing and to decide who is able to make emergency decision about their care. The letter urges Community Medical Centers immediately to affirm their commitment to inclusive and sensitive for patients, and to take a number of steps to carry out that commitment.

in healthcare settings is still far too common for , , and ,” said Jason Schneider, MD, of the and Medical Association (). “No one is served when partners are barred from visitation and kept from participating in about their loved one’s care. It’s bad for who are kept from potentially life threatening information, it’s bad for partners who are left waiting hopelessly in the waiting rooms and it’s especially traumatic for patients who need the and support that only their partners can provide to help them through care emergencies.”

A copy of the letter, which gives the hospital until June 22nd to respond, is available at http://www.aclu.org/lgbt/discrim/39854res20090615.html.

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AIDS/LifeCycle charity bike ride gets personal when recession hits

Timothy is among more than 2,000 who left Sunday on a 545- from to Los Angeles as part of the /LifeCycle . He carried with him a small black-and-white of his Uncle Richard, who died of more than 20 years ago.

For the last two years, has participated in the annual bike ride to raise for and -related services at the Los Angeles &; Center and the Foundation.

“I had this idea of me doing a great thing,” said, recalling how he felt when he first participated in the bike ride. “I’m helping others.”

But , once a producer with a six-, never thought “others” could include him.

After losing his and , , 37, now relies on the same services that he raised for in the past for his own treatment.

He was laid off last . Although he was offered another in the industry, he decided to take time off to reassess his . When he was ready to return to work, previous offers had dried up. By then, he said, who had provided were losing their own positions.

Savings stretched only so far. moved into an older, cheaper on the edge of and gave up his car. Some weeks, he said, he had less than $20 in his bank account.

After , could no longer afford the $500 monthly payment for benefits. His medications could run dollars a year. He stopped taking them.

It wasn’t long before he started to feel fatigued and depressed.

“I thought, maybe I need to talk to someone . . . Maybe I’m just depressed. I can’t find a ,” said. “I didn’t really think it had to do with .”

’s symptoms were a of what can happen when someone who is positive stops taking , said Brad Hare, medical director of UC ’s Positive Program at General Hospital. A lapse in treatment can increase the of disease progression and , he said.
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Lambda Legal Files Federal Lawsuit Against Assisted Living Facility Following Eviction of HIV-Positive Retired Minister

‘They shunned and rejected him, making him feel like a complete .’

(Little Rock, Ark.) — announced today that it has filed suit in U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of Arkansas against Ridge of , an facility.

The lawsuit was filed on behalf of 75-year-old Dr. Robert Franke, a provost and Unitarian-Universalist minister, and his daughter, Sara Franke Bowling.

Dr. Franke, who relocated to Little Rock to be closer to his daughter, moved in to Ridge after fulfilling all of its — including submission of medical from a local physician. The next day, however — after realizing Dr. Franke is -positive — Ridge officials abruptly ejected Dr. Franke from the facility. A Ridge told Bowling her father’s could remain, but that the “body” had to be out by the end of the day.

“I was stunned that my was thrown out of his new home,” said Bowling. “The at Ridge were supposed to make sure that he was comfortable and cared for, and instead they shunned and rejected him, making him feel like a complete .”

Dr. Franke requires no special medical attention beyond daily and regular check- with a physician, and Ridge is licensed by the state to provide Dr. Franke with the kind of care he and his daughter were seeking for him.

“Federal and exist to protect from just this sort of ,” said Scott Schoettes, Project for . “Unfortunately, this is something we are seeing far too frequently, all across the country. Those tasked with caring for our loved ones need to know that it is illegal to discriminate against someone with based on outdated and misguided beliefs about its transmission.”

Franke and Bowling are seeking under the , the Arkansas and the Arkansas , as well as an , under those laws and the , preventing Ridge from continuing to engage in this kind of conduct.

“This is about ,” said Franke. “I want to make sure it doesn’t happen to anyone else — because no one should ever be made to feel the way I did.”

Scott Schoettes, Project , and Kenneth Upton, Supervising Senior , are handling the case for . They are joined by co-counsel Gary L. Sullivan of the Tripcony Law Firm in Little Rock, Arkansas. The case is Robert G. Franke and Sara Franke Bowling v. Parkstone Living Center, Inc., dba Ridge at .

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Swine flu guidelines for people with HIV released by CDC

The on Thursday issued “” for clinicians treating patients with swine who are also -positive.

The full publication is available here.

The that with compromised , including with , are more at for seasonal , and thus are more likely to be at for H1N1, or swine-origin, as well.

There are available at this point to determine who is at higher for complications of swine-origin A (H1N1) infection. However, and adolescents with infection, especially persons with low , are known to be at higher for viral and bacterial lower and for recurrent pneumonias.

Evidence that can be more severe for -infected and adolescents comes from studies among -infected persons who had seasonal ; these data are limited. However, several studies have reported higher rates, prolonged illness and increased mortality, especially among persons with . Thus, immune compromised persons, including -infected and adolescents and especially persons with low or can experience more severe complications of seasonal and it is possible that -infected and adolescents are also at higher for swine-origin complications.

with who contract swine should be treated with or , the two to which the is not resistant. “No adverse effects” have been reported in with who have received the two medications and “there are no known ” for receiving the when they are also taking antiretroviral to treat , according to the .

with should take the same precautions as the general to avoid contracting swine : Swine flu guidelines for people with HIV released by CDC
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Heads up: U.S. Declares Health Emergency

From the :

Note:

From the web site (section for who are traveleing to areas where acases of this have been reported, not suggested for in areas where the has not been reported)

During your visit to an area affected by swine

Monitor the local situation
Practice to help stop the spread of
Seek if you feel sick

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Short Videos on Marriage Equality Could Win Up to $2,500 in L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center’s Project Pushback

It’s time to grab your camera and help change the conversation about for same- . The L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center has launched Project Pushback to tap into the energy of supporters and to inspire development of that will effectively promote support for the to marry.

Since the National for has just launched a $1.5 million ad campaign repeating many of the lies relied so heavily upon by the Yes on 8 campaign, the need for effective messages to promote the support for , and the , has never been greater.

Submissions will be accepted at lagaycenter.org/projectpushback, and the public will for its favorites. A $1,000 “’s ” will be given to the creator of the video that receives the most votes. From among the 10 videos that receive the most votes, a $2,500 “” will be awarded to the creator of the video voted the best by a , who include: Academy Award-winning Producer , -winning producer and director , producer Sherri Brown Francois, political and communications Griffin, vice and Tracey Chang.

Anyone who submits a video, or votes for one, is eligible to win a new , valued at $1,000.

Project Pushback isn’t about a specific election but about building support for the to marry long before . The best messages will educate and persuade voters as well as motivate who are already supportive to be more active in promoting .

Entries don’t need to be complicated–some of the most effective by of were fairly simple, such as the Yes on 8 campaign’s “I can marry a princess” ad. Judges will, however, be looking for innovative and original entries.

“During the fight against Prop 8, of used scare tactics and lies in their to frighten voters,” says Center Lorri L. Jean. “We need to find effective ways to blunt the impact of those by educating about the of our lives. Entries to Project Pushback should help open the minds of those who don’t already support our to marry.”

The Center’s Vote for Equality project, which has harnessed the power of hundreds of to educate voters about since 2004, is continuing to organize neighborhood canvasses in areas where the on Prop 8 was evenly split. The issues/reasons most commonly cited by those who voted “yes” on Prop 8 are:
- Religious
- is defined as the union of a man and
- The impact on children
“We’re learning a about voters from our one-on-one , and just as important, we’re starting to change minds,” says VFE Project Manager Regina Clemente. “We also realize that -to- are not the only way to start to open the minds of voters. We look forward to seeing the best videos from Project Pushback and then testing those messages in person with actual voters.”

for ’s next voter canvasses are Saturday, 11, and Saturday, May 9 - hundreds of can be accommodated and training is provided. More information about volunteering can be found at www.lagaycenter.org/VoteForEquality.

The includes:
- is an award-winning director and producer, with two Emmy Awards and two NAACP Image Awards, among others. ’s projects include ’s In Treatment and ’s Pedro.
- Sherri Brown Francois is the producer and director of True Life, News and various documentaries.
- Tracey Chang is a producer for the Vanguard department at TV, a cable network founded by former Vice Al Gore. Since 2005, she has covered a range of stories in countries including Pakistan, , and .
- Janet Choi is a producer at in New York. A former international correspondent for Channel One News, Janet was also a reporter for KTLA’s “Your LA with Janet Choi.” She has produced four documentaries based on travels to North Korea, Cuba, and .
- is the Academy Award-winning producer of American Beauty, and his most recent film, Milk, was nominated for a best picture . Cohen also produced Big Fish and To , Thanks for Everything! Julie Newmar.
- Rev. Art Cribbs Jr. is pastor of the San Marino Congregational Church and formerly was employed by KPIX-TV in . Rev. Cribbs serves as a for several organizations, including the United Black in Crisis Committee.
- Donna Deitch is an award-winning best known for her 1986 film Desert Hearts. Deitch also directed The Women of Brewster Place, ’s Prison Stories: Women on the Inside and Showtime’s Devil’s Arithmetic, for which she won an Emmy.
- Griffin is a seasoned political and communications . Griffin raised for the No on 8 campaign from such as , Steve Bing and Ron Burkle. He also helped create the anti-Prop 8 featuring Sen. Dianne Feinstein.
- Hon. John A. Perez is a California who has worked in the labor movement and has served as a for organizations such as Project Los Angeles, the Latino Coalition Against and the California Center for Regional .
- Cathy Renna is nationally recognized as a media relations expert. She was a major force behind the &; Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD). She is a founder and managing at Renna Communications, which specializes in issues.
- Hilary Rosen is the managing of the DC office of the Brunswick Group, a -based PR and communications strategy firm. She is also an on-air contributor for and Washington editor-at-large for The .
- is the vice of new business development and general manager of .org and previous of Planet Out.
- Spaulding is the editor and publisher of Pam’s House Blend, honored as “Best ” in the 2005 and 2006 Weblog Awards.
- Judy Starkman is the co-owner of convergencefilms.com, an L.A.-based production company specializing in commercials and web-based . In the past she has worked as a commercial director, a news producer and a photojournalist.
- Andy Towle is the former editor-in-chief of Genre and the behind Towleroad, which has become an important source for news, technology, culture, travel and more.
- Karin Wang, vice of programs at the Legal Center, is a founding steering of API -LA, a coalition of and allied Asian/ working to advance and promote positive of Asians and .

About the L.A. &; Center:
Since 1971 the L.A. &; Center has been building the , advocating for the rights and enriching the lives of , , and . Our wide array of services and programs includes: free / care and medications for those most in need; housing, food, clothing and support for homeless youth; low-cost counseling and addiction-recovery services; essential services for -parented families and ; legal services; and ; services; cultural arts and much more. Visit us on the Web at: www.lagaycenter.org.

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Short Videos on Marriage Equality Could Win Up to $2,500 in L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center’s Project Pushback

It’s time to grab your camera and help change the conversation about for same- . The L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center has launched Project Pushback to tap into the energy of supporters and to inspire development of that will effectively promote support for the to marry.

Since the National for has just launched a $1.5 million ad campaign repeating many of the lies relied so heavily upon by the Yes on 8 campaign, the need for effective messages to promote the support for , and the , has never been greater.

Submissions will be accepted at lagaycenter.org/projectpushback, and the public will for its favorites. A $1,000 “’s ” will be given to the creator of the video that receives the most votes. From among the 10 videos that receive the most votes, a $2,500 “” will be awarded to the creator of the video voted the best by a , who include: Academy Award-winning Producer , -winning producer and director , producer Sherri Brown Francois, political and communications Griffin, vice and Tracey Chang.

Anyone who submits a video, or votes for one, is eligible to win a new , valued at $1,000.

Project Pushback isn’t about a specific election but about building support for the to marry long before . The best messages will educate and persuade voters as well as motivate who are already supportive to be more active in promoting .

Entries don’t need to be complicated–some of the most effective by of were fairly simple, such as the Yes on 8 campaign’s “I can marry a princess” ad. Judges will, however, be looking for innovative and original entries.

“During the fight against Prop 8, of used scare tactics and lies in their to frighten voters,” says Center Lorri L. Jean. “We need to find effective ways to blunt the impact of those by educating about the of our lives. Entries to Project Pushback should help open the minds of those who don’t already support our to marry.”

The Center’s Vote for Equality project, which has harnessed the power of hundreds of to educate voters about since 2004, is continuing to organize neighborhood canvasses in areas where the on Prop 8 was evenly split. The issues/reasons most commonly cited by those who voted “yes” on Prop 8 are:
- Religious
- is defined as the union of a man and
- The impact on children
“We’re learning a about voters from our one-on-one , and just as important, we’re starting to change minds,” says VFE Project Manager Regina Clemente. “We also realize that -to- are not the only way to start to open the minds of voters. We look forward to seeing the best videos from Project Pushback and then testing those messages in person with actual voters.”

for ’s next voter canvasses are Saturday, 11, and Saturday, May 9 - hundreds of can be accommodated and training is provided. More information about volunteering can be found at www.lagaycenter.org/VoteForEquality.

The includes:
- is an award-winning director and producer, with two Emmy Awards and two NAACP Image Awards, among others. ’s projects include ’s In Treatment and ’s Pedro.
- Sherri Brown Francois is the producer and director of True Life, News and various documentaries.
- Tracey Chang is a producer for the Vanguard department at TV, a cable network founded by former Vice Al Gore. Since 2005, she has covered a range of stories in countries including Pakistan, , and .
- Janet Choi is a producer at in New York. A former international correspondent for Channel One News, Janet was also a reporter for KTLA’s “Your LA with Janet Choi.” She has produced four documentaries based on travels to North Korea, Cuba, and .
- is the Academy Award-winning producer of American Beauty, and his most recent film, Milk, was nominated for a best picture . Cohen also produced Big Fish and To , Thanks for Everything! Julie Newmar.
- Rev. Art Cribbs Jr. is pastor of the San Marino Congregational Church and formerly was employed by KPIX-TV in . Rev. Cribbs serves as a for several organizations, including the United Black in Crisis Committee.
- Donna Deitch is an award-winning best known for her 1986 film Desert Hearts. Deitch also directed The Women of Brewster Place, ’s Prison Stories: Women on the Inside and Showtime’s Devil’s Arithmetic, for which she won an Emmy.
- Griffin is a seasoned political and communications . Griffin raised for the No on 8 campaign from such as , Steve Bing and Ron Burkle. He also helped create the anti-Prop 8 featuring Sen. Dianne Feinstein.
- Hon. John A. Perez is a California who has worked in the labor movement and has served as a for organizations such as Project Los Angeles, the Latino Coalition Against and the California Center for Regional .
- Cathy Renna is nationally recognized as a media relations expert. She was a major force behind the &; Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD). She is a founder and managing at Renna Communications, which specializes in issues.
- Hilary Rosen is the managing of the DC office of the Brunswick Group, a -based PR and communications strategy firm. She is also an on-air contributor for and Washington editor-at-large for The .
- is the vice of new business development and general manager of .org and previous of Planet Out.
- Spaulding is the editor and publisher of Pam’s House Blend, honored as “Best ” in the 2005 and 2006 Weblog Awards.
- Judy Starkman is the co-owner of convergencefilms.com, an L.A.-based production company specializing in commercials and web-based . In the past she has worked as a commercial director, a news producer and a photojournalist.
- Andy Towle is the former editor-in-chief of Genre and the behind Towleroad, which has become an important source for news, technology, culture, travel and more.
- Karin Wang, vice of programs at the Legal Center, is a founding steering of API -LA, a coalition of and allied Asian/ working to advance and promote positive of Asians and .

About the L.A. &; Center:
Since 1971 the L.A. &; Center has been building the , advocating for the rights and enriching the lives of , , and . Our wide array of services and programs includes: free / care and medications for those most in need; housing, food, clothing and support for homeless youth; low-cost counseling and addiction-recovery services; essential services for -parented families and ; legal services; and ; services; cultural arts and much more. Visit us on the Web at: www.lagaycenter.org.

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Political Notebook: BART relocates ads featuring gay supervisor

promoting a study for an that feature District 8 Bevan Dufty have been tagged with at such a rate that officials recently relocated the at four Muni stations to better protect them.

The paid advertisements plug the Department of Public ’s research into whether , an , can keep - from contracting the . Dufty, who is openly and single, appears in one version of the dressed in a , sans jacket, but is not identified by name.

That ’t stopped his critics, or mere , from defacing the by writing in black “I’m easy” or “I killed Halloween,” referring to Dufty’s helping to scuttle the annual street party in the Castro on in order to end the that has marred the event in past years.

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