This dating app fought back against online harassment, and it’s amazing.
Dating app Bumble wrote an open letter to ‘Connor’ a user of the app who harassed a girl for making small talk, and it was amazing.
The girl, Ashley, reported Connor after her attempt to start a conversation went downhill.
Online dating is always pretty hit or miss, but Connor unleaded a tirade of abuse after a pretty basic question.
Connor tore into ashley, accusing of her of ‘prying’ into his career and his money/earning potential.
He goes on to call her a “entitled, gold-digging whore” and accuses her of being a “neoliberal, Beyonce, feminist cancer which plagues society.” Crikey.
He then instructs her to “take your $40,000 account manager job & asu degree elsewhere. My $300,000 job and Notre Dame finance degree has no use for you.”
Ashley blocked and reported Connor to Bumble, and the company had a fantastic reply in an open letter they posted online.
“Knowing that Ashley simply mentioned work in the conversation — we can gather that she wasn’t hoping to figure out if your wallet was sizeable enough for her to move into your house and start cooking dinner for you after vacuuming your living room while you clock in a 9 to 5 work day.”
“Instead, Ashley was (wait for it, Connor, because this is where things really get interesting), viewing herself as an equal. It might sound crazy, but people connect over the basic routines of life. You know… the weather, working out, grabbing a drink, eating, and working.”
“While you may view this as ‘neo-liberal, Beyonce, feminist-cancer,’ and rant about the personal wounds you are trying to heal from classic ‘entitled gold digging whores,’ we are going to keep working. We are going to expand our reach and make sure that women everywhere receive the message that they are just as empowered in their personal lives as they are in the workplace. We are going to continue to build a world that makes small-minded, misogynist boys like you feel outdated.”
Connor is now blocked from using the app, which aims to actually prevent this kind of harassment by requiring women to send the first message.
A spokesperson for Bumble said: “The entire exchange made our skin crawl. He so blatantly represents the misogynist voice that argues against equality, and in turn, holds back anyone wanting to be treated as an equal.”
“We are trying to level the playing field for women and in turn, take the pressure off of men’s stereotypical roles in dating relationships. Our hope is that by highlighting negative behaviour, we can somehow, at least in a small way, promote kindness and show that being friendly, upbeat, and nice actually gets people a higher chance of getting a date through our app.”