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Survey: Men are less likely to have same-sex experiences than women

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  1. Sorry-don’t believe it! In my experience more men than ever are having sex with other men. These men do not regard themselves as gay at all-they just think they are sexually adventurous. As for the anal aspect- thats just a distraction thrown into the argument by heterosexuals. Most men who have sex with men have non-penetrative. This survey is a load of cobblers!

    1. Helge Vladimir Tiller 26 Nov 2013, 1:52pm

      Agree with you, John-UK ! (–Norway )

  2. Actually only 5% of men said they’d ever had same-sex *genital* sex – not sure what the others were doing.
    And only 2.9% reported this happening in the last five years…

    PS Here are those pesky facts… http://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140673613620358/table?tableid=tbl2&tableidtype=table_id&sectionType=red

    1. Some interesting data there. Looking at the original article and its authors, it looks like just a human data mining, for profit — the careers and all of doctors — the author’s seem to all be working the same kind of project in several variations. I suppose that makes them ‘expert’ and unquestionably unbiased…. yep.

  3. Helge Vladimir Tiller 26 Nov 2013, 1:49pm

    Men are more ! ! likely to have same-sex experiences with orgasm than women. That’s what I believe-

  4. Seems like cobblers, to me.

    Chaps: how many ‘straight’ lads have you copped off with? Yeah, me, too! :)

    Strongly suspect that women are simply more willing to answer these questions than blokes are.

    1. I feel you’re probably right about men not wanting to answer truthfully. Perhaps because of a perception that their name will become public later on. And, “anal sex” — that’s pretty radical a question in itself. What about just jerking off together? remember back in the day when the only legal homo sex in east germany was men jerking off at the same time, but separately, in a room — which was maybe about a barracks? The whole thing’s bizarre and I have to ask “who’s asking” the question and how?

  5. lady Tanya 26 Nov 2013, 1:56pm

    if true then i hope my dance card gets full with women who want to have a ( experience ) night of hot woman on woman love

  6. Two obvious points:

    1) Men are less likely to report a same sex encounter; even anonymously and;

    2) There is MUCH more social stigma to male homosexuality than to female homosexuality. There is much more stigma to male/male intimacy of ANY kind than to female/female.

    1. Robert in S. Kensington 26 Nov 2013, 2:11pm

      Totally concur with that.

    2. PantoHorse 26 Nov 2013, 6:33pm

      Re point two, I both agree and disagree. I think the degree to which female homosexuality is seen as acceptable depends on who the viewer is. Straight men are more likely to ‘accept’ female homosexuality as long as one/both/all parties are OK for them to jump on in. A lot of prejudice is levelled towards females who aren’t OK with this, especially if they say so openly. There’s a lot of porny projection put onto f/f interactions and some men can be *very* disappointed/angry/rude/abusive when their expressed wish to get involved is rejected.

      Straight women are less OK with it, not all, of course, but particularly those who assume all gay women fancy them and are going to come on to them (which I think is largely related to whether or not they actually know any lesbians).

      I do agree though, that there is stigma surrounding male/male intimacy, but again I think that’s a lot to do with ignorance.

  7. Robert in S. Kensington 26 Nov 2013, 2:11pm

    19% of 16-24 year old hetero males report having anal sex with opposite sex partners isn’t going to bode well for the anal sex obsessive trolls who come in here. It seems that heteros are more fixated on anal sex than gay men, especially the religious nutters. I don’t put much faith in this survey. Many hetero males wouldn’t be forthcoming about their same-sex experiences for the most part and I suspect the figure is higher than perceived. Hetero men are more uptight and hung-up about sexual orientation than women, that’s for sure. There is still that guilt by association stigma they can’t get their heads around among the majority of hetero men. It’s no more reliable than any survey claiming the number of gay people in the UK.

  8. The percentage given in this ‘survey’ relating to men who report a same-sex experience means nothing. So few ‘straight’ men would admit to having gay sex, when the reality is that many of them do! Only we and they know the reality and if the reality was reflected in official statistics it would make many homophobes scream in terror and probably cause quite a few heart attacks! :-)

    1. Helge Vladimir Tiller 26 Nov 2013, 9:49pm

      True, so true, J. I agree ! ( Norway )

  9. Men are less likely to REPORT having same-sex experiences… that’s true

    It’s strange how “liberal” UK are still much more homophobic than even Texas.

    1. Brett Gibson 27 Nov 2013, 1:07pm

      Don’t be silly. We have FAR more socially advanced than those Southern apes with ever be….

      1. Brett Gibson 27 Nov 2013, 1:09pm

        Are* Will*

  10. I’m sure women are more likely to say than men are!

  11. Robert Cuthbertson 26 Nov 2013, 3:12pm

    Depends on how you define “experience”. Believe me this is so wrong. Most men would NEVER admit a “same-sex” experience. After all they were only experimenting.

  12. The men asked obviously didn’t tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth ! :-)

  13. Of course women have sex with women its just been swept under the carpet or been hidden out of sight. Besides women now have more of a financial freedom and can choose to live a life they probably could not afford in the past due to a patriarchal, misogynistic, dominant society.

    1. I kind of feel that the only thing you’re saying is that more women now have the opportunity to be interviewed by doctors about their sex life. In real life, part of loving someone someway is to forget about economic problems and stereotypes : )

      1. women could not forget about economic problems because in the not too distant past every financial decision they made had to be ok’d by a man.

      2. Never mentioned doctors. Am saying in the past including in Victorian times where the queen claimed herself that there was no such thing as lesbianism. Women had to stay at home and look after the family, they had no employment. If they had no husband then they would not have had a roof there head. If even then they displayed and engaged in lesbian relationships in them circumstances they would not be put in prison like men, they would put them in an asylum and would have become experiments. There were never, even today when there are no lesbian sex laws only a described unified age a-sending law. Women in the UK only got the equal vote in 1928. Are you suggesting that women only spoke about sex to doctors? Am not sure where you have got that from my post? Women’s rights is still so far behind on the global scape its ridiculous. Forced marriages, correctional rape, religion. Women are used as machine to sprout out children to keep alive, you cannot forget about economic problems.

        1. I’m saying that a close reading of your initial post makes it seem tautological: women sometimes do or say some things women do or say. I don’t really care, for this discussion, about the political aspect you’re pushing, only about the personal life of each of us… that which has no gender at all and would love anyone. The real problem is not what I understand you to be approving or disapproving of, but the way the supposedly scientific survey was organized and, now, interpreted, by the doctors.

  14. OK, so most of us, in the comments, are saying that in our own experience guys getting it on with guys is normal guy behavior. The ruling motto being, ” the difference between a straight guy and a gay guy is 2 six-packs of beer”…

    So, what was the setting for these interviews, and from what population?

    1. Ahhhh. Alcohol the nectar of truth, LOL.

  15. I agree with most of these comments. This survey reports what is said(by some people), NOT what is done.
    It was ever thus in sexual matters.

  16. Most research says that women are more likely than men to have same sex/ bisexual experiences/attractions but it sounds like from comments on here that men just aren’t admitting to it. This is very interesting to me. does this mean that same sex attraction is perceived as more socially acceptable for women than for men?

    1. .. Only if the two women concerned are in their 20’s, blonde, big titted, de-haired and getting it on in bed while waiting for a man to show up. :)

      1. that rules me out then! as am non of the above

    2. PantoHorse 26 Nov 2013, 6:38pm

      Cut and paste from above. Bit lazy, I know, but I think it needs to be said as the acceptability of lesbianism is not as clear cut.
      I think the degree to which female homosexuality is seen as acceptable depends on who the viewer is. Straight men are more likely to ‘accept’ female homosexuality as long as one/both/all parties are OK for them to jump on in. A lot of prejudice is levelled towards females who aren’t OK with this, especially if they say so openly. There’s a lot of porny projection put onto f/f interactions and some men can be *very* disappointed/angry/rude/abusive when their expressed wish to get involved is rejected.

      Straight women are less OK with it, not all, of course, but particularly those who assume all gay women fancy them and are going to come on to them (which I think is largely related to whether or not they actually know any lesbians).

      I do agree though, that there is stigma surrounding male/male intimacy, but again I think that’s a lot to do with ignorance.

      1. I think there’s a difference in language/terminology also. many women are occasionally attracted to other women but would not describe themselves as gay/bi and many men who have sex with men who also would not describe themselves as gay/bi. maybe some people just don’t want to be labeled

        1. And many people avoid labels which they associate with prejudice and stigma, whatever their actual sexuality.

  17. wow! another wasted controlled and selective survey that is no one’s biz but between the 2 consent’n adults…so this is suppose to prove what…humans are horny? here’s a quarter…buy a clue and quit waste’n lame fluff stories that are completely useless/pointless that aren’t scientifically gonna change the world!
    http://getoffmydress.blogspot.com/2013/11/the-black-plague.html

  18. Helge Vladimir Tiller 26 Nov 2013, 9:45pm

    There are so many heterosexual boys/ men who once or several times have had sex with another man- gay or not. In the 1950ies, 37 % of all “white americans” had this experience. (Most of these persons were prisoners, but still !— Kinsey ) What would be the percentage today ? Higher, for sure.

    1. I’m actually surprised that it was as high as 37% in 1950s USA, as it was an extremely conservative nation during that decade – however, a person’s political beliefs or what they say their political beliefs are and how they behave sexually in private are very different things. That’s been proven time and time again.

      Today, these men who live ‘straight’ lives yet have secret gay experiences are helped by the ‘hook-up’ sites on the internet. There are many ‘straight’ men in little provincial towns around the country who search for and get gay sexual encounters on those websites. Homosexuality is much more common than any ‘survey’ will suggest. It’s like UFOs and Princess Diana’s death – nobody will ever find out the truth unfortunately. I’ve got a very strong feeling that David Cameron and George Osborne have had gay experiences in their past … perhaps with each other!! Unless they do a ‘Michael Portillo’ it’s unlikely we’ll ever find out the truth about that either!

  19. Helge Vladimir Tiller 27 Nov 2013, 8:55am

    Just to be sure that 37% is correct-I’ve found this actual book in my shelf. Yes, 37% it says. The book is written by a Swedish psychiater and psychologist Lars Ullerstam. ( –he was also cand. phil in philosophy.) Published in 1964.( “The Sexual Minorities”) I remember his references to Kinsey were very valuable to me when I was young and insecure here in Norway ! Gave me a lot of self confidence and pride !
    All the best to you J.– and all the other participants here.

  20. Helge Vladimir Tiller 27 Nov 2013, 11:26am

    Just to be very correct : The English version was, “The Erotic Minorities”. ( 1966 ! ) The Norwegian version , which I have; “De seksuelle minoriteter”. ( The Sexual Minorities” )-1964.

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