I came out as Bi in the 1990′s, when I was married. I was a bit bonkers before, I’m just as bonkers now. That’s just me, I guess.
Interesting. I discovered I was bisexual in September 2010 and that I was a transgender in September 2011. I only came out of the closet to my parents and my sister some days ago, in December 21. Being bisexual was never a problem for me, and if I wanted or had to I would come out as bisexual normally, but I never had the courage to come out as transgender, it was only with help of my psychiatrist. I never had a girlfriend and still don’t have, but I think if I had I would come out as bisexual to her easily, maybe even as transgender. I don’t know, I feel it would be like that.
Every bi male I’ve dated (all married to women) and there have been three so far, all kept it concealed form their wives and relatives. This study comes as no surprise. One of them was so paranoid, he would have to go outside of his place of work to phone me during his lunch break. Sad they have to live that way. From now on, I’m avoiding getting involved with any, too complicated for me.
Why would you date a married man?
I happened to like them as well as being attracted to them, not that I ever imagined they would leave their wives to be with me. I enjoyed their company and the sex was rather good too. It’s no different than a straight married male or female committing adultery….. attraction, sex, excitement. I wouldn’t do it now though.
I happened to like them as well as being attracted to them, not that I ever imagined they would leave their wives for me. I enjoyed their company and the sex was rather good too. It’s no different than a straight married male or female committing adultery….. attraction, sex, excitement. I wouldn’t do it now though.
I was married when I had my first same-sex experience. My wife was there ;) Not the usual situation, but she did level the “Are you fully GAY?” argument at me before she left (kind of ignoring she initiated some of the encounters!).
It is true, most bi men are in closet. Because its much easier for them to live the hetero lives and have gay sex on the side. The also tend to be most vocal homophobes for obvious reasons.
If your’e bi on a surface level it might seem easier to live a hetero life but it eats you up inside to be in the closet. I came out as bi to my wife, family and friends last year. It’s caused no end of turmoil. But I wouldn’t/couldn’t go back in the closet again, and I’m grateful to the gay, bi and straight folk who’ve helped me uncover the real me. Society loves sticking people in pigeon holes but sexuality is not always binary. I grew up attracted to both sexes. It caused no end of confusion in a society that universally accepts heterosexualty with a grudging tolerance towards unequivocal homosexualty. But there remains still less tolerance for those of us attracted to both men and women. To me my wife is absolute sex goddess but I’d be a liar if I didn’t say there are some some seriously hot guys out there too!