Anderson was criticized for living in a glass closet, but I see it differently. Coming out is a very personal thing and unless some closet case is doing harm to our community, I think that we should allow persons the have control over their own journey. If we ever come to a place when being GLBT is no different from the color of ones eyes, I can see why coming out would seem easy for anyone. Until that time, we need to respect one another as a community. Anderson is a good person to represent us.
I’m sure the fact that his career was switching to television presenter and chat-show host was the deciding factor.
People seem not to realise that there are no out “hxxx-news” journalists in the UK media, and few in the US; although the poor coverage of LGB (and women’s) issues should make it obvious. Hxxx-news is still an incredibly macho culture, and one where, despite competing, people also rely upon others. Being out gay would prevent that; none of them talk about their sex lives, and there are good reason for that, not least the ethos of not letting oneself become the story, instead competing on the speed, daring, depth, and quality of one’s work. But also not providing reasons that would prevent one doing one’s job – such as being unable to travel to some countries. This guy was, despite his great looks, and working for CNN, a hxxx-news journalist.
It took me eleven tries to find it was that part of a standard industry term that is forbidden from usage here. Pretty childish system really, IMHO.
I watch sometimes in CNN but dont worry even my very conservative parents didnt care so no worry you did the right thing
He came out for ratings. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
He claimed that he did not want to discuss his private life, which was a complete lie as he had previously discussed his older brother’s suicide in depth on many occasions.
It doesn’t really matter why however.
Now that he is out people can respect him.
Closet cases never deserve respect.
‘Closet cases never deserve respect.’
Very often not. But, depending on their circumstances, they very often deserve compassion.
“He came out for ratings”
He was out to his family, friends, colleagues. He was widely known to be gay in the wider media (hell – in 2006 he appeared on Out Magazine’s Most Influential Gay People list).
He simply point blank refused to acknowledge publicly what everyone already knew – that he is gay.
He claimed that he refused to talk about his personal life, which was a barefaced lie as he had discussed his older brother’s suicide in detail in interviews.
The ratings for his new chatshow were in the toilet.
And he came out to widespread press attention.
There’s nothing cynical in my analysis.
Or at least it’s no more cynical than Anderson Cooper.
Do you really not accept that his statement “ I didn’t want to send a message that there was anything I was ashamed about or unhappy about or not comfortable with.” might have been from the heart. How do you know so much about him. If you’re right, I’m a niaive optimist. But if I’m right, what are you?
I really don’t understand this mentality where we have to know everything about someone who is in the media?
Yes, to some degree they have a responsibility to be open to those who look up to them but at the same time they too are entitled to a private life
I’d hardly equate knowing that someone is gay is knowing all about their private life.
Maybe so, but there are somethings that people, even in the public eye, don’t feel is important, and I certainly feel this is the case here.
To quote you from your comment above “He simply point blank refused to acknowledge publicly what everyone already knew – that he is gay” why does he have to publicly announce his sexuality? If his family and friends know then surely that should be enough? Do you walk around every where you go, when you meet people do you say “Hello, I’m David and I’m gay”? No, I don’t think you do and neither do I, it doesn’t make me any less proud of who I am.
I am out at work too, which in the industry I work in is no mean feat. However, I do not go around screaming that I am gay. If people ask, I tell them, (what I do in the comfort of my own home with my husband is no one else’s business) Does that make me a bad gay? No, it doesn’t!
We all decrie the suicide of Gay youth and rightly so, but if those of us who are older and wiser choose to show our shame at being Gay by staying firmly in the closet, especially those of us who are clearly Gay, closet or no, those same Gay youth have no role models to look up to and instead see only shame and fear. They see no future for their lives and end up on the coroners slab. This is a very sad reflection on the so called Gay community and makes a nonsense of our calls for equality and rights. We must be out and visible if we are to convince hetero society that we deserve nothing less for our lives than what they expects for theirs. Only a scoundrel creeps around in secret and when Gay Youth see this they see nothing but misery and deceit for their lives and are not willing to live such a life and so take the awful steps to end theirs. We should all show them that coming out is not the disaster nowadays that it once was and be out and proud and ready to stand up proudly…
There is no justifiable reason for someone who is financially independent and who lives in a country / state with anti-discrimination laws, for being in the closet.
It doesn’t mean you HAVE to be out, but it simply means that if you are not out then you do not deserve an ounce of respect,
David Laws ought to be ashamed of himself for cowering in his closet even though he was a middle aged millionaire.
Well said, Paddy.
I agree with you Paddy, however this man was out to his family and friends, so it could be argued that he was out and proud. However, does the fact that he is on the TV make it more important that he make a public announcement? After all, there are loads of positive out role models out there already for younger LGBT kids to look up to.
I totally support his decision to wait as long as he did. He is a world-wide reporter and frequently travels to present the news first-hand. There are still many countries where he will not be allowed to enter, or be jailed or worse, simply because he is gay. Would you risk your life for your job by coming out?
I do believe what Anderson said about ‘visibility’ being important when it comes to those in the media. It makes us as a community more visible to the bigots out there. That yes we are in all walks of life and we can be very successful, regardless of our sexuality.
I also thinks that a prominent person coming out helps those who still haven’t. It can feel extremely lonely at times. For a very long time I stayed hidden from family and friends and reading one biography of a well known gay actor gave me the courage to come out.
So for what ever reason Anderson had for coming out now, I commend him and thank him because somewhere out there there will be someone coming out to their friends and family because of Anderson!