My father is a social worker and he taught me to be understanding of others and to not judge. I thought it would be ok when I told him I was seeing another woman, but all hell broke loose.
I suppose some people just don’t let go of their own prejudices.
Saying that sexuality should not be discussed in a professional setting sounds fine in theory, but its not how humans work. We talk about our families, our partners and our social lives constantly, it just comes up in conversation naturally. I’m a teacher and mostly work in Catholic schools and while I feel that my pupils don’t need to know about my private life, its unbelievably hard to avoid it in the staff room when everyone’s talking about their kids and their spouse and what they did at the weekend.
Why should you have to self censor, worry about gender pronouns, have that nagging concern in the back of your mind of what might happen if you “get found out”? Simple answer, you shouldn’t. If you’re feeling oppressed then, difficult as it may be, it falls to you to make a stand.
The Caring Professions.
Too many of their members are neither caring nor professional.
When my house got broken into, I was harassed in my local community by home treatment teams from a local mental health team. I was subjected to belittlement and prescribed anti-psychotics for the simple fact that 1. I am a scientist, 2. I do not believe in God (publicly a humanist) and 3. because I’m gay. I’m bisexual but was forced into accepting a label before I was ready. I am a computer scientist, well educated about psychology and now fully aware about the homophobia that exists in the NHS.
To the fact now that I don’t even trust my own doctor having seen the disgust on his face when he addresses me. I would really like to hear about other peoples experiences of homophobia within the NHS.
I am based in North Wales and from what I’ve learnt, homophobia seems to be more existent outside of city areas, the further North in Britain you go, the more likely an NHS body is to be anti-gay.
I would welcome similar experiences from others who have experienced what I have.
I have personally experienced homophobia from a practise nurse at my local GP surgery and I know other lesbians have – to the extent that we do not go for smears anymore. We have complained but the situation has not changed.
When I worked for Gay and Lesbian Youth in Calderdale we were horrendously bullied by the local PCT who stopped us applying for funding from Comic Relief (as we needed the support of the PCT in our application). We made an official complaint about the person but, to my knowledge, nothing happened. This was one of the reasons why GALYIC was forced to close last year.
So, yes, I would agree, there seems to be more homophobia amongst the NHS in places outside of major cities like London, Manchester, etc.
Having working with LGBT young people for many years I also am aware that most NHS services do not meet the needs of this highly vulnerable group – be this mental health, substance misuse, GPs or even, on occasions, sexual health.
I’ve experienced striking homophobia from doctors in Edinburgh. Theh first was the GP who made a comment about “revolting faggots” in front of me (not out to her as bi, and not obviously bi either) and the friend pushing my wheelchair (fairly obviously gay). The second was the psychologist who was engaging in a spot of victim-blaming, and told me that everything that had happened to me was because I was bisexual. I got far away from both women, I can tell you.
Social care – I have support workers (similar to home helps) provided by social services, and I have experienced some unpleasant remarks about lesbians and also about poly folks. They weren’t malicious, they were voiced by someone young and ignorant, but they still shouldn’t have occurred in a professional setting.
I also should not have to worry about coming out to my support workers – bear in mind these people help me bathe, so they are handling me when I am naked. But it’s an issue, and social services don’t help.
In addition, when I went to sign on at the local job seeker before I signed off and began my own business.
I noticed my jsa agreement allowed me to benefit from “milk tokens” for the “pregnant member” of the household.
Now could someone please tell me whether a bisexual male need milk tokens, I’m sure milk tokens cannot only be claimed by a woman?
You can only get milk tokens if you or your spouse are pregnant. A Bixseual male might be able to claim them if his girlfriend or wife in the same household was pregnant.
Well what I found interesting was that I live alone merely with a parent and it stated I could claim the milk tokens from 2004, the letter itself dated 2012 as it was a new claim.
I considered it a dig from a homophobe working in the department. What else could it mean, I doubt they would backdate a milk token claim from 2004 for another other reason.
None the less, I have no intention of going bankrupt as I do not want to see the name Peter Swingler again.