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  1. Absolutely disgraceful! Bullying,teasing and ridicule from peers is one thing but rudeness and such bigoted view from adults is worse as they should know better.Hope these adults or cultural dinosaurs will see the prejudice they hold and work upon becoming more accepting

    1. Kerry Hollowell 12 Sep 2011, 5:57pm

      and the worrying thing is kids learn certain behaviour from their own parents

      1. Kerry Hollowell 12 Sep 2011, 5:58pm

        so if they see parents making snide comments they will do the same

  2. So depressing. It echoes evidence I have heard of re. attitudes to children of gay and lesbian couples. Apparently other children are less likely to be a problem than their parents, who will break up childhood friendships in case the l/g couple are an ‘evil influence’.
    We hear so much about the ‘cruelty’ of children, yet up to a certain age it’s clear that they are often free of the hatred and prejudices their parents are full of.

    1. Prejudice and intolerance are learned behaviors. It is unacceptable that anyone especially an adult would mirror that behavior.

  3. She had better get used to it that is the normal reaction. This is in part due to the medical condition having been overwhelmed by the politics of gender.

    1. whymewhyme 12 Sep 2011, 8:49pm

      it may be a frequent reaction, or even statistically average but i would fight with the mother and child every centimetre to make sure it isn’t normal.

      normality is a concept which can and should be changed if people suffer –
      i hope to interpret that you mean well – that you consider politics focuses on gender hence leads to polarised views male/female rather than concerns of person as a human individual.

      good luck to you – and to the mother and child

    2. Jock S. Trap 13 Sep 2011, 11:07am

      “She had better get used to it that is the normal reaction”

      Well lets just hope those majority of children grow up against their discriminating parents to make society all the better without such abusive adults.

      There is no excuse for abusing a child, particularly from Any adult.

  4. I’m more concerned that the child has been labelled transgender so young. I think our societies obsession with stereotyping gender roles is creating more issues then is needed.

    1. OrtharRrith 12 Sep 2011, 8:58pm

      This child knows she is transgender and will have known it for some time – most likely since she was very young. That this child is being accepted by her classmates and school is to be appluaded. The reactions of others is horrific.

    2. Who says gender identity is to do with gender roles anyway?

    3. Jock S. Trap 13 Sep 2011, 11:12am

      Actually I don’t think your as concerned about the child being labelled transgender as much as realising that a lot of children know who they are at a young age. I know I did and I also know the crap I went through because it made adults feel uncomfortable about think their child can have such knowledge about themselves. It’s all this surrounding in cotton wall to protect but what are you protecting them from? Themselves? Or adults bruised egos in things they find uncomfortable and rather not deal with?

      Maybe if parents/adults showed their child more respect instead of dumbing them down to suit their Own egos we wouldn’t have such a mess.

      1. Steven Crossley 14 Sep 2011, 2:49pm

        I’m sorry, but I do agree with the original comment. Two is far too young to be labelled anything. The only thing you should be labelled as at two years old, is a toddler who is finding out how to walk, how to say simple words, and how to sense the environment around you, not finding out you would prefer to be ‘yay’ gender. How do you define your child as being a sufferer of Gender Dysmorphia at two? Is it because she picked up a pink block and not a blue one? I’m sorry but only this morning was I reading about how two young men in cameroon were arested for being gay, just because ‘they looked feminine’. Is that really how we base sexuality, on how someone looks? On how someone acts?

        1. Steven Crossley 14 Sep 2011, 2:50pm

          I will address this young girl as a young girl, because that’s what she is. That’s what she was labelled as at a young age, and it’s how she has grown up, and as it stands, she appears to be really comfortable with who she is now.

          But I can’t help but wonder, would she have considered herself female, had she been given the opportunity to speak for herself?

          I adore this young girl for her bravery in facing the world everyday, where the giants (us adults) seem to be giving her hell at such a young age (and shame on those who do!). I have so much respect for her. But as for her parents? I can’t help but think this is just a way for them to get a bit of media sensationalism, rather than showing the love and care in being there as parents through thick and thin of the lifestyle their child chooses, as (in my opinion) a parent should.

          1. OrtharRrith 14 Sep 2011, 9:07pm

            Her parents state that she showed signs of being transgender at two not that she was labeled transgender at two. Regardless, the sad case of David Reimer shows that you can not force someone into being trans. Even if they are unaware of their birth gender – as David Reimer was – then they still fight against being made into something they are not.
            You can’t MAKE someone trans by dressing them in clothes of the opposite gender, much like you can’t make someone gay; instead they are born that way.
            If you read the article (along with the other articles on her – if you can stomouch the crap some papers have written!) you’ll see that they report that she has been linving in a male role for the past 10 years and has only transitioned over the summer holidays. Does THAT fit your critieria of “having a voice”?

        2. Alyssa Nguyen 15 Sep 2011, 5:31pm

          The article said that she’s currently 10, and the decision to have her go to school as a girl was made “over the summer,” so she was 9 at the youngest. I don’t know where you’re getting 2 from.

    4. This child was not “labelled” transgender…she knows who she is, which to some adults seems to be the worse transgression a child can commit. As someone else said, gender identity has nothing to do with gender roles.

      1. Steven Crossley 14 Sep 2011, 2:53pm

        My concern is how she was diagnosed as being transgender at the age of two. Did she play with pink clothes, like barbie dolls, wear high heels? This is normal behaviour for any two year old – it’s called exploring the world and environment around you. You don’t think children learn to speak and not play with fire because you clicked your fingers, do you?

  5. Doesn’t surprise me in the slightest… these vile comments from narrow minded idiots are disgusting, and I seriously wonder what they are teaching their own off spring by saying those kind of things.

    And I get called freaky just because I have a pierced septum!

  6. That is so wrong! WHO are THEY to judge…

  7. “You’ve got to be taught before it’s too late, before you are six or seven or eight, to hate all the people your relatives hate. You’ve got to be carefully taught!”

    It’s still true; hopefully, knowing her will help prevent her peers from blindly accepting the views of the previous generation of haters.

  8. She tells the truth it is the parents who teach the children to hate the same as their parents taught them to hate. Like a cancer gene they pass this hate down from one generation to another. The circle needs to be broken to stop the hate from being passed on to another younger generation.

  9. We are born with an open mind, soaking up everything we see and hear, prejudice and bigotry is a learned behavior. The most disgusting thing is the fact that grownups are calling a child a freak, a child, an innocent precious child. Do they honestly believe God would condone such hatred. Shame on anyone who would treat a child like that, they are no better than a pedophile, because they are mentally torturing a child. They might say they do not hate, but their actions show who they truly are.

    1. I completely agree with you! All of those adults should charger with cruelty to a child!!!

    2. Jock S. Trap 13 Sep 2011, 11:21am

      Excellent comment TammieH, so well put!!

  10. People like that probablly hate blacks and gays too. This is why i find it shocking that so many gay people are racist

    1. What do you expect? Most gay guys are targeted by minority ethnic groups anyway, due to their own way of learning. Granted yes, I know of guys too from ethnic groups, and they have to put up with crap from their own ‘brothers’

      if we start by showing diversity, acceptance in school, then people will learn to LOVE and ACCEPT people for who they are!

      So what if I have a pierced septum! I get far more positive comments from my appearance than I do negative ones, because I am prepared to make a stand, be different, stand out from the crowd and make my point. If people can’t accept me, purely for my appearance, then all the non-accepting folk have to do is turn around and face the other way.

      1. What do you expect?

        What a weak and sad. Gay on gay racism is the problem anti gay attitudes come from all over the place. You won’t get any “brothers” in gay bars and clubs so don’t attack the ones who go there.

        1. When i said brothers I was referring to people from the same ethnic background. I chose my words carefully to avoid causing offence.

          A weak and sad…… what? Sausage? Lettuce? Tomato? Cabbage?

          1. BAck to the point discrimination and bigotry is never justified using a comment like “what do you expect” is the same arguments used against this kid. It’s shameful

        2. …racism?

  11. For adults to act like that makes me sick to my stomach!!! I would look into getting a lawyer and making those small minded adults put their money where there mouth is!!!

  12. Reminds me of the time I was walking home from the shops and there was a black kid in front of me walking. Anyway this adult man across the road called him the N word, I mean seriously? Who do people think they are. I felt like calling him a cracker or something but I didn’t want to sink to his level. I feel sorry for that poor kid. I’m white but I still knew how he felt being gay and all.

    1. So rather than scurry away, maybe you should have reported the
      hate crime you witnessed, if you were genuinely soo sympathetic of it, rather than make a stupid suggestion of making a further racist slur , albeit irrelevant ,as you did nothing .

      1. And, by the time the police had got there, or deigned to take the details, the person who said that would have been halfway across the globe. Was there any reaction to the N word from the person it was aimed at? Or was it said so quietly the it was not heard?

  13. The behaviour of those people picking on this child is appalling.
    But how great is the child’s own mother? She’s doing just what a parent should be doing, loving her child unconditionally. As long as the child has support like this at home she’ll be OK

  14. Jock S. Trap 13 Sep 2011, 11:05am

    Yet again here we’re shown the true problem in society. Bigotted Adults. Note not children.

    Sadly those bigotted adults, usually religious, will teach their children their own brand of hatred and therefore the cycle of discrimination continues.

    My hat comes off to the mother for allowing her child to grow in the face of such hatred but still doing what a real mother does… love. Something these bigotted adults must surely stop and learn from.

    The fact that Adults feel showing such hatred and discrimination, such abuse to a child is acceptable surely must put into question their very own right and suitability to be parents themselves. Do these hateful people really thing that their own abuse of a child is really acceptable?

    Seems the classroom shouldn’t be just for the majority of the accepting young people but a few lessons need to be taught to the adults too.


  15. Think about it and what is going through those adults heads. Of course the kids accept her because they are young and what she is doing reinforces the fact that they have a right and it’s a necessity to be comfortable in your own skin, not to live with regrets for their entire lives. On the other hand the adults are fixed in their miserable lives doing things they don’t feel comfortable doing, living with regret upon regret. Jealousy is a terrible thing and can make people say and do terrible things. These adults need to make the adjustments in their lives so they can regretting and be happy because when you are truly happy with yourself it doesn’t matter what other people are doing

    1. Jock S. Trap 13 Sep 2011, 11:22am

      Indeed and the fact is this one child, this one daughter will teach those children far more about life than all those bigotted adults put together.

  16. auntie babs 13 Sep 2011, 12:16pm

    I wonder whether these so called adults will be prosecuted? They should be in my opinion. Dosen’t the equality act cover this sort of situation?

    1. Sorry, Auntie,this is not happening in the UK but in “States” in the Commonwealth of Massachusetts.

      1. Eh? The Worcester News that the article is in most certainly is in the UK!

        1. Jen Marcus 13 Sep 2011, 1:05pm

          Sorry, Auntie Rehan you are both correct and my last comment should be stricken.Point of information something like this did happen in the sates,however!

          1. auntie babs 13 Sep 2011, 4:39pm

            lol, apology accepted, to be honest I commeted without even checking if it was US or UK but as it was also in todays Metro assumed it was UK.

  17. Poor child. :(

  18. I find this particularly troubling because Massachusetts is allegedly one of the more enlightened and progressive states in the US? If things like this are happening there it is apparent the rest of the US is so drunk and clouded by religious beliefs that the people in the “states” cannot, or will not embrace enlightened scientific views on the subject of sexual orientation and gender identity.The sad thing is these ignorant adults are passing down their ignorance and bigotry to their children despite their children’s seeming initial acceptance of this little girl.This entire scenario is absolutely disgusting! These adults should be ashamed of themselves for teaching their children intolerance,bigotry and hatred and assuming many of these people are Christians they are hypocrites for not heeding their Master’s Great Commandments of Loving God & Their Neighbor As Themselves. Then again maybe they do not love God, or worse yet, themselves because the Spirit of God is within “All Of Us?”

    1. Jen Marcus 13 Sep 2011, 1:10pm

      Strike the above comment! The incident in question happened in the UK NOT in the US Commonwealth of Mass. There was similar incident that occurred some time ago in the states that created the confusion….SORRY!

  19. Did anybody hear the disgusting “debate” of this news story on the Jeremy Vine show on BBC Radio 2 a few hours ago?

    I encourage everyone to register their complaints if they did. I don’t know if a replay of the show is available online for those who didn’t hear it. Incredible levels of bigotry and ignorance.

  20. We are supposed to have laws to stop this sort of thing! Why aren’t they being used? AS for Jeremy Vine,I didn’t see it (Actually,I’ve never heard of jeremy Vine!) but it hughlights the way in which the media in this country seems to have no constraints put on it! How many “Tranny” stories were aired by the happily no longer with us “News of the World?”

  21. I am so jealous. Recently at 23 years old I discovered myself as transgender and lately the only thing I’ve been thinking of is transition. I wish I could also come back from the next vacation to my college already in the process of transitioning. But anyway, good luck for her turning into a cute girl.

  22. What’s shocking is that not only are they being transphobic but when poor kid’s only 10 years old!

    Whether you agree with it or not what do they expect hatred and bigotry is going to do to a 10 year old who’s not in a position to defend herself? And frankly, it’s nobody else’s business anyway and she isn’t harming anyone. Shocking.

    1. I think adults harassing a child should be considered a crime, like kicking a puppy to death and smothering an elderly with a pillow.

  23. One of the problem is that those bigot are confirm right by “rightous” people as bishops, politiciens and so on. In another hand sometime we give them munition with some well publicised activities as gay pride a bit too much even for many gays.

    1. As a transgendered person myself, I am happy for her as she will miss having to grow up in misery like I did from the age of around five years old, forcing myself to live a lie and suffering from acute depression because of it. I just wish my parents had spotted the signs when I was 5 – but back in the 50’s this wasn’t a well known ‘condition’. Now after being myself for well over half my life I am truly happy and content. Good luck sweetheart, you will be fine I’m sure.

  24. Katie Kool-eyes 20 Sep 2011, 9:46am

    This is an outrageous turn of events. This poor girl took a very bold step, only to have people who should know better lash out and call her nasty names.

    Someone mentioned the Jeremy Vines debate on this (it’s up there someplace, sorry for not giving you name credit lol). I agree with you, he handled the debate very disrespectfully

    Katie xXx.

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