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Anna Paquin: ‘We should talk about bisexual prejudice’

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  1. “Earlier this month, it was revealed that one of the characters in the next series of True Blood is to have a same-sex affair.”

    The current season of True Blood comes to UK next January, right? I won’t spoil it then.

    But it’s Toni from Atlanta. And let me just say that’s one messed up relationship.

    1. Galadriel1010 28 Jun 2011, 9:43pm

      That sounds like spoiling it…

      1. To someone who doesn’t watch TB, I’m sure it does.

  2. “Frankly no one had ever asked me about being bisexual before.”

    Well that’s no excuse for staying in the closet Anna.

    I think that if all bisexual people came out – particularly those secret bisexuals in opposite sex relationships – then there would not be an issue.

    And I’d love a bisexual perrson to explain what risks and dangers they face, which are not faced by gay people.

    I hear bisexuals going on about the prejudice they suffer from, but I genuinely don’t understand how it varies from what gay or lesbian people experience (while also being aware of the fact that bisexual people may be less likely to come out as they are unwilling to sacrifice the heterosexual privilege they so often enjoy.)

    1. TheSuburban Bi 28 Jun 2011, 4:39pm

      I’ll try this again… having trouble posting:

      Bisexuals face two forms of prejudice, dismissiveness, ignorance, and even hatred — one the one hand from straights and the on the other from the gay/lesbian community. One of the toughest things bi people face is not feeling we have a secure ‘home’ anywhere, when we get harangued, derided, insulted and assaulted from both sides.

      It’s not about trying to figure out who has more prejudice hurled at them than the other — but about facing the fact that bi people face prejudice from more than one source and have to fight for recognition and respect on two fronts

      1. Indeed!

    2. I’d like to see a male celebrity come out as bisexual. I feel it’s a far bigger taboo than female bisexuality. (And I’m not talking about people of boyband fame. ASkars would do, for example.)

      1. Well, Alan Cumming is the obvious example of an openly bisexual man… there are others, but not nearly so high-profile as gay men. I’d say that coming out as a bi man would be harder these days than coming out as gay.

        1. Staircase2 28 Jun 2011, 5:56pm

          I sincerely doubt that lol
          Ever since David Bowie came out as ‘bisexual’ in the 70s (or Elton John), the UK press has been fairly easy going about that. They tend to view it as ‘well there’s always hope’ lol – whereas when someone comes out as ‘gay’ is when we have tended to see the real homophobia fly.
          In fairness, Gay celebs historically coming out as ‘bisexual’ probably havent helped the bisexual cause in the long term. Nor the huge amount of closeted gay men who would rather dub themselves ‘bisexual’ than actually risk coming out fully.
          ‘Playing the ‘bisexual’ card’ has created a notion of a safer midway house between the two ‘extremes’ of gay and str8.
          In truth, the social acceptability of the notion of ‘bisexuality’ depends upon groundwork laid by Gay Pride – social acceptance of ‘gay’ is the first step towards equality of sexuality which in turn, rests on social attitudes towards women.
          How women are treated in a given society informs the way that str8 men feel about themselves.

      2. TheSuburban Bi 28 Jun 2011, 5:32pm

        When male celebrities do come out as bisexual, they are not believed. They are quickly derided by many gays, who say they are just not ‘really’ out of the closet and straight people just say ‘oh so they are gay then’ as well, so… it’s difficult for both men and women.

        But here are some names of male singers, broadway stars, film actors, musicians, reality tv stars who are out as bi:

        Mike Manning
        Raul Esparza
        Brett Anderson
        Billie Joe Armstrong
        Allan Cumming
        Craig Revel Horwood
        Brian Molko
        Ryan Beull

    3. Sorry SteveC, but no one should ever be required to come out unless they want to. It sounds like, to Anna, it was a non-issue. She didn’t deny it but didn’t stand around waving her arms. When a situation arose where it became appropriate, she spoke up. I applaud her for this message as well – only recently, on a facebook gay pride group, a young lesbian came on saying bisexuals were sick and evil. Prejudice towards bisexuals comes from both ‘sides’ – heterosexuals and homosexuals.

    4. PumpkinPie 30 Jun 2011, 2:55pm

      And I’d love a bisexual perrson to explain what risks and dangers they face, which are not faced by gay people.
      .
      I’ll let SteveC explain the prejudice we face, SteveC.
      .
      bisexual people may be less likely to come out as they are unwilling to sacrifice the heterosexual privilege they so often enjoy.
      .
      That’s it right there. Apparently, we’re all cowards. That’s the reason so few bisexuals come out. Not because society has drummed it into our heads from day one that all people are monosexual, that it has to be one or the other, which makes it very hard for people to even accept that they’re bi in the first place. Not because being out as a gay person can be as simple as a PDA with your significant other, whereas bisexuals are always assumed to be either gay or straight depending on who they’re dating by anyone who doesn’t know their dating preferences, unless they make a public disclaimer to everyone they meet. We’re not closeted, we’re just invisible.

    5. The writer and singer of “Glad to be Gay”, Tom Robinson, is bisexual. It appears that homosexuality was a stepping stone (or “bolt hole” is a term a homosexual biphobe here posted), on his journey to bisexuality. Yes, that’s it biphobic homosexuals, homosexuality is sometimes a stepping stone to bisexuality, too!

    6. I have experienced the same homophobia as gay men have though not on a consistent basis, it obviously becomes more dangerous when dating a man or in my small hometown and coming out. But here is a big long list of biphobia that may not be physically dangerous but emotionally troubling.
      1)undergrad 30 gay kids bullied me to come out as gay until it was found out that I had several girlfriends and a teacher explained to them that bisexuality is real.
      2)a straight female teacher wanted me to “prove” it by trying to get me to have sex with her.
      3)having my opposite sex relationships called a lie, a denial and a phase by gays.
      4)having my same sex relationships called an experiment by straights.
      5)Being harassed by both GAY teachers and students in graduate school which did not end until I threatened to get the teachers fired and the students expelled. It was taken seriously when it was found out that I knew bisexual activists like Susie Bright and they realized that I could sue the school.

    7. And here is more:
      1) a gay therapist told my bi girlfriend that I was “gay and in the closet” and should not be involved with me and she should “stop messing around with women and go get married” but not to me.
      2) a straight female couples therapist brought up the Baily study when I was in relationship with a woman
      3) when dating on okcupid I received harassing emails from 3 gay men and 1 straight woman, I get about one visit every month versus 10 a day when I put “straight” or “gay”
      4) I am questioned on a stage set by the director who thinks I am “straight and a liar”.
      5) my boss straight female calls me “a liar, a coward and You don’t deserve respect.” angrily I might add – most of the men on the job were gay – this was not homophobia.
      6) dating only other bi people because you fear rejection and misunderstanding from gay men and straight women – and based on personal experiences it has happened.
      I have more if you want to hear it the list is much longer.

      1. Last I will say that MOST bisexual men I know are closeted and do not come out at all. There homo feelings erase their hetero feelings, because “bisexual” really only means gay. MOST I have known end up in opposite sex relationships and are divorced from the gay world, unless they come out as gay first and bi later, then they find they may loose all their gay friends by dating a woman (which happened to my friend who is married). Another friend who married and divorced is in a same sex relationship but the gay community often does not take his identity seriously.

  3. Bisexuals are persecuted by Christians and others just as much if not more that gays or lesbians. Being bisexual one falls in between the gays and the straights and it makes it hard to be accepted by both. However we are all God’s Children and we need to work together to ensure equal and civil rights for all as well as our freedoms.

    1. Well, no we are our parents’ children. I’ve been following closely the backlash from the Christian right following the New York victory and I can tell you there was absolutely no mention of bisexual people. We probably get lumped together with “the homosexuals” or “sodomites” which is probably worse than being persecuted separately. It’s hard to expect anything else from these people. The world *is* completely black and white to them.

  4. Well, though I can empathise with Anna, the bisexual who is married to someone of the opposite sex has an easier time in many ways. For those in the closet about their gay side, they can hide behind their marriages or non-married relationships. We’ve never had that “privilege”for want of a better word when homosexuality was illegal. Even today, some single gay people still can’t come out of the closet for whatever reason.

    Tad, bisexuality I don’t think carries as much stigma as being gay does. I’ve not heard much condemnation from religious groups regarding married bisexuals. When it comes to same-sex marriage, prepare for their wrath.

    1. I think it is only right and fair to expect bisexual people to be open about their bisexuality when they are in opposite sex relationships.

      Bisexuals who are in opposite sex relationships but who are not open about it (and who hide behind their straight relationships when convenient) are no friend to either the bisexual or gay movements. They are the ones who are contributing to the ‘dishonest’; ‘indecisive’; ‘disloyal’ image that bisexuals face. It’s not the openly bisexual people who contribute to that stereotype.

      1. No, it is gay people and straight people who call bisexual people dishonest, indecisive and disloyal simply for being honest about themselves that contribute to that image.

    2. If you are out as bisexual there is an extraordinary amount of prejudice for bi men. Gay men don’t believe it. And in professional situations like grad school or work I have been not only ridiculed but questioned to where I recite my dating history to “prove” it. Today gay people do not have to prove their sexual identity. This constant interrogation and questioning from the outside is ridiculous and rude. I can tolerate curiosity, but it is assumed I am either in denial or experimenting. When indeed I have had significant relationships with both genders and attractions and feelings that don’t go away. To be told you are a liar and don’t exist and that it is impossible to have loved the people you have loved is rather exhausting and depressing.

  5. I agree completely with Anna. I was in a pub the other week and was discussing bisexuality with one of my friends who claimed that bisexuals needed to be promiscuous to be happy. He said that they couldn’t be satisfied in a monogamous relationship and that they either had to cheat or be in open relationships to be happy. When I argued with him about it, the bartender said that he agreed with me, but then went on to say that bisexuals were simply greedy people that couldn’t make their minds up and that bisexuality doesn’t really exist. According to him, people should be happy being attracted to just one gender. Both of these men are gay. I’m not even going to begin to give examples of comments I’ve heard from some heterosexuals.

    1. I’m probably going to say this wrong…. While I don’t feel there’s something wrong with being bi, I know it would make me uncomfortable being in a relationship with someone who was: I’d always feel it impossible for me to be “enough” for my partner. I can see how being bi would work with open relationships or people who never settle down w/someone else. If a committed relationship is established, on the other hand, I’d think a decision regarding sexuality had been made from outward appearances; yet I’d personally still feel uncomfortable in that relationship. Some interesting posts have been made here about the repercussions of announcing oneself as bi regarding others’ opinions. I don’t know from what I’ve read whether or not it’s harder on the individual to come out as gay or bi, but clearly prejudice and stigma come from all sorts of angles and must be hard to cope with.

      1. “I’d always feel it impossible for me to be “enough” for my partner”

        This seems to be a common source of anxiety about dating bi people – it’s examined (in verse!) by the Plaid Adder, here:

        http://www.plaidder.com/sotpb.htm

      2. I’m guessing that you’re not bi yourself; I’ve heard this a lot, and I’m wondering whether it’s because straight and gay people are more concerned with gender than bi people are, pretty much by definition.

        By way of comparison, a monosexual person might fancy redheads and blondes, but it’d be unlikely that a redhead or blonde might avoid a relationship feeling that their single hair colour could never be enough for their partner. Even if somebody only finds blondes attractive, a blonde person is unlikely to assume that their partner will cheat on them with another blonde, let alone with somebody else of a different hair colour.

        For me, somebody’s gender is as about as irrelevant as their hair colour – I might have some vague preference within that spectrum, but I certainly don’t need a multitude to keep me happy. But somebody who defines themselves more strongly by their hair colour attraction might have difficulty understanding the colour-ambivalent.

    2. JessO – perhaps your friend’s attitude to bisexuality is coloured by his own personal experience of bisexuality.

      I know that based on my personal experience that bi people are more than happy to sleep with me at night and then in the morning slink back into their closet.

      Do I believe that all bisexuals are like that? No of course not!

      Have I met many open bisexuals who is out of the closet to their friends; colleagues; family; opposite sex partner? Very, very few. None in fact.

      That is my fault. That is simply my experience.

      1. ‘that is NOT my fault’ I meant to say

      2. I’m not in the closet about my bisexuality, but I don’t tend to hang around the gay scene simply because I don’t feel welcome there as a bi man, as a fat man, and as somebody whose musical tastes don’t match what I hear being played in Canal Street bars. So I don’t tend to meet all that many gay people, and hence don’t talk to them about bisexuality.

        On the other hand, I know a lot of people who sleep with both same-gender and different-gender people, but define as gay and hang out on the gay scene because they feel at home there. I’m not going to tell anybody else how they should identify, but I suspect there are a lot more behaviourally bisexual people in the gay scene than you might guess…

        1. I know the feeling Dave, as an overweight, bisexual metalhead I tend to avoid the gay scene for the most part. I do go out every now and then, but it’s not a regular occurrence. I’d rather be down the local alt bar listening to Real Music lol

          I’ve also found the alternative scene to be far more accepting of bisexuality than any other. So long as you don’t act like a***ole they accept you.

          1. I’m in the same boat as Dave Page and phoenix. Bisexual, overweight and not interested in mainstream music. I’m discriminated against by so many people, that I’ve come to expect it wherever I go and it doesn’t bother me anymore. It shocked me, however, that other people from the LGBT community were so ignorant.

  6. well, I am a bisexual woman.. I only have sex with the one person(man or woman) I am dating, and I am satisfied. Just because I am attracted to both men and women, doesn’t mean I look for other people to have sex with when I am dating someone of either gender.. I just have more to choose from when looking for a relationship. It’s like heterosexual girls who are dating a man.. they don’t look for another man to have sex with because their man isn’t good enough. A bisexual person does not have to cheat on their partner to be satisfied. They love who they are with. Bisexuality does exist. I equally am attracted to both male and female, and would marry either gender. Many lesbians have prejudice against bisexual women, and are generally not interested in bisexual women. It is very frustrating for me as a bisexual woman to find a woman as a partner. :\

  7. Chutneybear 29 Jun 2011, 10:07am

    Bisexual people are just like straight and gay people, finding their way in this world and between homophobes and militant mincers they make the world a harder place to live .And know another thing? Fair fu<kin play to bisexual people, they are capable of falling in love with anyone fair play to them.

  8. If it were possible, I’d rather date a vampire than a bisexual.

    1. Chutneybear 29 Jun 2011, 12:56pm

      Well it would be only the living dead that would date you with an attitude like that so you hit the nail on the head…flaps…

    2. With an attitude like that, make-believe creatures are the ONLY thing that would be interested in you. Personally, I date people for their personality, not what’s between their legs.

  9. There are varying degrees of bisexuality. Some are more prone to same-sex, some to the opposite sex. It’s the latter group that a lot of gay people would find hard having an ongoing relationship with I think. Not that there is any guarantee a gay person will be monogamous. It’s just the general perception of even more instability with a bisexual person because of their attraction to both genders. I can appreciate how difficult this must be for bisexual people. I for one respect them and acknowledge their existence. Could I have a permanent relationship with one? Probably, if he were single and were more attracted to males than females. I’ve had a couple of bad experiences with married men. They rarely ever leave their spouses, no matter how much they pledge undying love. My advice, NEVER get involved with a married man and that goes for straight people. You’ll end up being the loser and one who almost always gets hurt. It’s just not worth the heartache.

    1. Its the married “Bisexual men” that create this image of unable to stay faithful or even the idea that all bisexual men are in the closet my one question to all “Bi” married men if you are truly bisexual why don’t you get enough satisfaction from your wife that you feel the need to look for co<k. true bisexual men have my respect but these in the closet gay men who claim to be bi will unluckily ruin it for the actual bisexual men.

      1. I would think that these married men should be obliged to be out of the closet to their wives and the wider world.

  10. Do you know what I really dislike though – it’s those ‘bi for guys’ women.

    You know the ones – the woman who will snog her female friend in a nightclub with the intention of attracting men by doing so.

    I was out some months ago and saw 2 women kissing.

    Later that evening I spoke to 1 of them and asked her why she was doing it? She was quite blatant in her reply ‘ It attracts straight men, but I myself am not remotely bi’.

    These ‘bi for guys’ straight women are also causing big problems for bi acceptance as lesbians often complain that these ‘bi’ women are making their lives much harder as men seem to think that lesbianism is merely a device and that lesbianism is just a show for their amusement.

  11. MyLyricalDreams 29 Jun 2011, 2:38pm

    I’m Bisexual, and from personal experience, I get more grief and rejection from the GAY community than I do from Hetrosexuals. That’s not to say I don’t get problems from them too, but ultimately a lot of the time, I get told that I don’t deserve to walk in the Gay Prides, or mingle in the community with ‘true’ homosexuals. I’ve been called a ‘dirty half queer’ (which did sound similar to a Harry Potter comment I must say lol) and that’s the most polite remark. It’s sad for me because it’s bad enough to be rejected by hetrosexual people and then to receive the same, if not more rejection from the Gay community, who would think would have some understanding of the pain and hurt one feels with not being accepted.

    1. Bizarre and offensive that you should claim that you get more grief and rejection from the gay community that the straight community.

      It’s as if you believe that gay people are more likely to physically attack you for your sexuality than straight people,

      Do you ACTUALLY believe that?

      And seeing as you state that you are bi – can you confirm that when you are in an opposite sex relationship that you are completely out to your partner, her family, your friends and your coleagues. If not then why not?

      The ONLY legal right denied to bi people in Britain is the right to get married to a same sex couple. This i

      All the other complaints I have read on here about the treatment of bi people are related to precomceptions and assumptions made about that.

      And has already been pointed out repeatedly, these preconceptions are based on experience with bi people.

      Until ALL bi people come out as bi – and especially those in opposite sex relationships, then these misapprehensions will continue

    2. “the Gay community, who would think would have some understanding of the pain and hurt one feels with not being accepted.”

      And when a bi person gladly sleeps with a gay person at night and then slinks back to their opposite sex partner in the morning and denies the gay person’s existence and pretends to be straight, then how do you think the gay person should react?

      Or are you making the assertion that these cowardly, dishonest bisexuals do not exist?

      1. Even if they do exist, what the hell does that have to do with the poster above? Or are you implying we have some sort of collective bisexual guilt on our shoulders? It’s not his account of personal experience with gay people, it’s your generalisations that are bizarre and offensive.

        1. MyLyricalDreams 29 Jun 2011, 3:29pm

          Lucius, I did not say the Gay community as a whole.

          I said that I’ve received MORE problems from that Gay community than by Hetrosexual people. I have a lot of gay and lesbian friends who are very accepting of who I am. And there are plenty of Gay and Lesbian people who have no problem with Bisexuals at all. Then there are others who do.

          I’m sorry if you think my personal experiences are “bizarre and offensive” but they are simply what happened.

        2. MyLyricalDreams 29 Jun 2011, 3:49pm

          Sorry Lucius, I’ve just re-read your comment and I’m now not sure sure if you agreeing with me or against me. It’s the ‘HIS account of personal experience with gay people…’ that has confused me lol, I’m a bisexual GIRL so I’m not sure who you’re agreeing with lol, me or SteveC! So please clarify and I will respond accordingly!

      2. MyLyricalDreams 29 Jun 2011, 3:21pm

        You’re exactly what I mean when I mention prejudice against Bisexuals.

        “Cowardly, dishonest bisexuals”? Are you telling me that there aren’t gay people who “slink away” to have their homosexual relationships and then “denies their gay partner’s existence and pretends to be straight”? Please.

        I don’t see how my comments were “bizarre and offensive” as they are honest recollections of my previous experiences. I HAVE received more problems from gay people than hetrosexual people. Did I say all? I think not. Did I say that makes hetrosexual people more accepting? Absolutely not.

        I’m also not discussing Bisexuality in a legal context so your comment about British rights is rather redundant in this particular conversation.

        In response to your rather aggressive ‘request’ – Yes, I’m a proud and open Bisexual to all. Problem?

        Here is only a small list of misconceptions I’m forced to face -

        All bisexuals are greedy.
        All bisexuals are unfaithful.
        All bisexuals are faking it.

        1. Oh there certainly are gay people who slink away, and I will have nothing to do with those cowardly dishonest people.

          But according to you, I am being bi-phobic when I call bi people ‘cowardly and dishonest’ and refuse to have anything to do with them.

          1. MyLyricalDreams 29 Jun 2011, 3:42pm

            …Well, yeah!

            “I am being bi-phobic when I call bi people ‘cowardly and dishonest’ and refuse to have anything to do with them”

            That says it all really, lol!

          2. I’m speaking of course about those cowardly, dishonest bi people who happily sleep with you, and then run back to their clueless wifey, and pretend they don’t know you. And I am sure you will also agree that were it not for the efforts of the gay and lesbian community, then you would not be in a position today to be demanding the end of bisexual prejudice.

          3. MyLyricalDreams 29 Jun 2011, 4:07pm

            SteveC, you sound like you’re talking from personal experience? Forgive me if I’m wrong…

            Never the less, yes, I do condemn your actions to brand the whole bisexual community as “cowardly and dishonest” for the actions of some bad individuals.

            And yes, I am not disagreeing with the ‘Gay and Lesbian’ effort to fight for rights (also the Bisexuals, Hetrosexuals, Transsexuals, and others who fought) but again I find the point irrelevant as I never said anything about it to start with.

            Incidentally, whether or not I was in a position to “demand” the end of Bisexual prejudice as you so coarsely put it, I would fight because that is who I am. And I fight for what I believe is right and true.

        2. Bravo, my dear, for being so brave and honest – you summarised my experience, too, and I should imagine, the experience of many bisexuals.

      3. MyLyricalDreams 29 Jun 2011, 3:26pm

        (Continued from above)

        All bisexuals want to be like Lady Gaga.
        All bisexuals shag anything that moves.
        Some bisexuals sleep with animals.

        And this only a few of what I’ve heard and been attacked for.

        Not at any moment did I deny that there are people who pretend to be bisexual or they’re are bisexuals who do ‘shag and run’ (incidentally, there are plenty of hetrosexual and gay people who do exactly the same). What I am pointing out is, must I as a Bisexual person be forced to endure these prejudices because there are others like that? Must I be tarred with the same brush?

        1. “Until ALL bi people come out as bi – and especially those in opposite sex relationships, then these misapprehensions will continue”

          And

          “when a bi person gladly sleeps with a gay person at night and then slinks back to their opposite sex partner in the morning…then how do you think the gay person should react?”

          If a someone from a different race mugged me and I then told a perfectly law-abiding person also of their race that I could show them respect only when all their fellow countrymen were law-abiding, then I would be guilty of prejudice. That’s pretty much the definition of discrimination.

          A bi person who behaves badly is a person behaving badly. It is not a consequence of their bisexuality. If we assert otherwise, then surely we are questioning the whole philosophy behind the human rights movement.

          1. MyLyricalDreams 30 Jun 2011, 10:15am

            I couldn’t have put it better myself! (^_^)

      4. Like they’ve been used by an ar**hole. They haven’t been used by a bisexual, but by someone with no moral compass.

        1. MyLyricalDreams 29 Jun 2011, 11:29pm

          Agreed.

    3. I know what you mean! When I started to get more involved with the LGBT community I found that they were a lot harder on me for my bisexuality then my straight friends were, I was disgusted. I’ve actually gotten to the stage that I won’t mention that I’m bisexual when I’m first involved with a woman because most of them give me awful grief for it, unless they ask me directly or if I think the relationship is going somewhere. Bisexual people shouldn’t feel like they need to stay in the closet when they’re around people who know what a struggle it can be to be out and proud.

  12. I do think bisexual people have a hard time. I think straights are very unsettled by them, because it makes the (barrier) lines look less clear.

  13. MyLyricalDreams 29 Jun 2011, 3:39pm

    Incidentally, the title of this news story is ‘ “We should talk about bisexual prejudice” – and that’s exactly what I’m doing. I’m not attacking the gay or hetrosexual community, I’m discussing my own experiences.

  14. Suvi-Tuuli Allan 29 Jun 2011, 3:43pm

    Biphobia sucks, but I have no special love for bisexual women. They say they like women but as soon as they find out you’re trans, they change their minds. Also, some seem obsessed with angrogyny and thus trans (wo)men.

    1. MyLyricalDreams 29 Jun 2011, 3:46pm

      Speaking as a Bisexual woman, I love men and women but it’s more about the person than their gender. I fall in love with the personality, not who or what they are.

      1. Chutneybear 29 Jun 2011, 4:06pm

        +1

    2. That’s my experience as well. I get that the lesbians don’t want to sleep with us but bi women too? I have found the occasional exception though *smiles*.

      1. The Menstruator 5 Jul 2011, 12:28pm

        One would think that a lesbian woman is too smart to sleep with a bisexual woman due to the double dose of disease. I would never touch a woman that was actively sleeping with males. That’s completely vile. Being bisexual, is what it is, you do your thing, i do mine, but don’t try to spread your hetero diseases to my sisters.

        1. oh wow, try not to be such an obvious troller and you might be more successful.

  15. David Mills 29 Jun 2011, 9:59pm

    One of the reasons for biphobia is that if a person is bisexual, they *choose* whom to sleep with. The default position in the gay community seems to be “we sleep with members of our own gender because we have no choice.” So a bisexual man having sex with a man tends to be seen as wilfully wicked (by homophobes) rather than someone who “can’t help it.”

  16. Spanner1960 30 Jun 2011, 2:06am

    Get over it love. Being Gay / Lesbian these days isn’t what it was, so you don’t have to use bisexuality as a bolt-hole in case you get found out.

    1. MyLyricalDreams 30 Jun 2011, 9:56am

      That’s exactly the stupid prejudice that’s around these days!

      Being truly Bisexual isn’t a ‘stepping stone’ on the way to declaring yourself Gay or Lesbian!

      I’m a proud Bisexual young woman and I can tell you, I’m definitely not a Lesbian or Hetrosexual! To say that being Bisexual is a simply a system in order to start coming out of the closet is not only offensive, but highly ignorant.

      To simplify what I’m saying – I love my men AND women, not through choice or comfort, but through the same way as any Hetrosexual, Gay, Lesbian, Transsexual, and other people – through love and attraction.

      1. The Menstruator 5 Jul 2011, 12:25pm

        ew. i hate to see a woman degrade herself. stop letting men spooge on your face please.

  17. Martin MacDonald 30 Jun 2011, 8:47am

    I really wish people would STOP saying that being Gay or Bi is a CHOICE!!!! It’s NOT a CHOICE!!! I think if there was LESS PREJUDICE against Gays & Bi’s they’d be LESS of them getting married to the OPPOSITE sex as a so-called respectable-front! I’ve noticed a steady INCREASE in Gay & Bi men getting married to WOMEN over the last 5-6 years, & I should know as I’ve been sleeping with them! lol

    1. MyLyricalDreams 30 Jun 2011, 9:58am

      Thank you.

      Finally, someone with a good head on their shoulders.

  18. How ironical that any discussion on bisexuality ends up in a slanging match against bisexuals.

  19. The Menstruator 5 Jul 2011, 12:24pm

    If who you sleep with and who you spend your life with doesn’t matter, than why do we need to talk about some disgusting bisexuals? Seems to me that if you are married and true to that spouse, why does it matter if you are bisexual or not? Or are you just telling the world you are a cheater that needs to brush her teeth more than the average person due to your bisexual ways? When a married person proclaims they are bisexual it’s like a big read letter A no?

  20. These posts man…

    Bisexual man here. I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.

    1. I know how you feel, but seriously, anything that gets bisexual people sharing their experiences and getting people to talk about us is a step forward. Even if we have to deal with comments like the above, from the people who should be the most tolerant of all.

  21. anyone who says bisexuals aren’t fully out,

    I used to identify as a lesbian but then had a crush on a guy. would you have me deny my feelings for him or my girlfriend of over 4 years?

    to anyone who thinks we’re sluts,

    I’ve only had 1 sexual partner. I never cheated on her.

    to anyone who thinks bisexuals don’t have to deal with homophobia,

    I’ve been told by a “Christian” that I’m going to hell just because I fell in love with my best friend.

    to anyone who thinks biphobia doesn’t exist on the gay scene,

    I’ve lost count of the times some emo gay boy steriotype asked me if I was a “real lesbian” (bi- and homophobic) and the told me bi people were just greedy (yes, straight people can be biphobic too, but gays should know better).

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