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  1. Grant Denkinson 4 Aug 2010, 5:34pm

    …and one day, one day, the press gay and straight will finally cotton on to the fact that some people are bisexual.

  2. I’m on the same page with you, Grant.
    Its mystifying that people purposely confuse themselves by going “Oh my gosh, why did they turn straight to gay?!” when the answer is already there: bisexuality.

  3. southpaugh 4 Aug 2010, 7:19pm

    Bi-sexuality is a possibility, though a bit less likely than a long try at ‘choosing’ heterosexuality, and giving it up because one really can’t choose, no matter how hard one tries.

  4. Ian Bower 4 Aug 2010, 7:29pm

    Bisexuality, yes possibly, or –
    Quote: ‘consistently identified as heterosexual throughout their lives’
    Possibly, just possibly because we all know the pressures to do so.
    Maybe that should have been: ‘consistently pretended to be heterosexual throughout their lives’
    It’s called comming out!

  5. I don’t like that term ‘newlygay’ as it implies that some women simply wake up one day and decide to be gay. It trivilises their experience.

    I think that women have a different outlook on sexuality and could have different biological drives – eg the drive to have children. I’ve met more than one woman like that.

    Also, I think (and I’m sure I’m not imagining it!) that there are/were less visible lesbians in society so women – especially older ones – may have thought themselves lesbian initially because they were attracted to women, then lost confidence, as it were, and reverted to following the ‘traditional path’. Only as society has moved on and they themselves grow more confident do they acknowledge their true sexuality, which has been there all along.

    Of course, women who have children might realise that they’re gay earlier on but decide to stick it out until the children were older (same for some men too), so that would also explain why there are older women coming out.

    1. Thank you. You said just about everything I wanted to say. Society and the repressing heteronormativity do not leave some women much room to ponder upon their sexuality and the fact that they might feel attracted to other women. It makes very much sense to me that that time comes when any children are moving away from home and that explains at least a part of the number (any research on this, article author, or are you just making it up?) of women who realise the other end of their bi-spectrum.

      Although, my personal experience is that children need not to have anything to do with it, it is more a question of reaching a state of maturity high enough to realise that this attention to a few women are more just than the passing appreciation of female beauty and charm.

  6. Why does an air of amusement and superiority hover over this article in relation to women who come out later in life as lesbian or bi (and, yes, V King Macdona, some of these women could be bisexual, and it would be good reporting to at least mention that fact)? It’s not ‘funny’ that a woman finally comes out. It’s not just trendy. Maybe the fact that a lot of others have recently come out finally gives a woman the courage to come out herself. I really don’t see the need for criticism and trying to take them down a peg.

  7. Am I reading this article right? ‘Newlygays’? Is this a new made up term, perhaps coined by the author themselves? And ex-straight lesbians?!!

    Can I ask if the author has any experience or knowledge of wither the lives of bisexuals and/or the lives of LGB and T people who choose to live in a way that goes totally against the way they are because of various factors and pressures?

    It’s little wonder that more people are ‘coming out’ or really just being honest with themselves; we live in much more progressive times and these people feel the time is right. Although it’s been happening in a much more low-key way for a long long time, we’re seeing and hearing more thanks to the media – both professional and social.

    The bizarre new terminology and ignorant attitude of this article is insulting and the disregard for bisexuality is offensive.

    As an FYI Portia De Rossi, singled out in this article, had a high profile relationship with Ringo Starr’s step-daughter for almost 5 years and married a man only to get a green card in the states, as she confirmed to the Advocate in an interview.

    Get your facts right and your prejudices sorted.

  8. I absolutely agree with the commentors above. The article never once mentions the terms “bisexuality” or “coming out” like neither concept exists.

    The idea that women coming out later in life should be branded as some sort of fashion visctims is highly offensive and does indeed belittle their very individual personal experiences and internal struggles which may have prevented them from coming out sooner.

    Yes, there may be some women who “turn lesbian” for attention or to be fashionable, but lazy generalisations on this scale are offensive and the sort of homophobia LGBTs shouldn’t have to put up with from the straight community, let alone from one of “our own.”

  9. Great way to trivialise the sexuality of the women in question. Coming out later in life is not exactly uncommon, and yes – at least some of these women will be bisexual.

    Anyone think of asking them how they choose to identify before making up new labels like “newlygay” and “ex-straight lesbian”. I doubt anyone would be happy with either of those descriptions.

  10. Pink News should be utterly ashamed of themselves printing this clueless biphobic excuse for an article. It’s disgusting.

  11. What aload of rubbish! And FYI Portia de Rossi was always gay as she has often stated in interviews and in her biography.

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