Very sad story.
Matt, if you chance to come across this story, my thoughts are with you.
Very sad. All anyone can do is offer condolances.
This is very sad indeed but not uncommon in our community.
If your having thought about taking your own life please seek help now, don’t suffer in silence.
I don’t think its fair for the press reports to imply that this had a lot to do with his breaking up with Matt Lucas. The guy had a serious drug addiction problem, which no doubt led to his severe depression & suicide. It might have been harder for him to cope without his partner to help him, but at the end of the day, it was much more drug-related than break-up related.
I think the divorce was a concecuence of Matt finding impossible to cope with the huge problem that is trying to sustain a person with that problem. Sad story, hope Matt hasn’t a similar one.
Thanks George for reminding us of the real problem here. Kevin had experienced rehab for his addictions and his continuing ” unreasonable behaviour ” was the cause of the relationship break up. Living with an addict is tempestuous at best and hopelessly frustrating at worst. Many addicts have additional mental health issues that can end in suicide, its a very complex issue. Matt’s statement after the divorce not to discuss reasons for the break-up on both sides was I suspect more to protect Kevin. It takes strength to let go of an addict while still loving them, while hating the condition they hold. Many gay men hooked on coke, often home alone, will experience similar desires to leave their body. It is with great hope that they don’t but sadly the grip of addiction surrounds us.
It is good to read that Matt has left his role on the london stage indefinately to take care of himself. It is at this time that he needs to muster strength to avoid guilt, to be embraced by his friends and family while we remind ourselves that Kevins plight need not be repeated if we face our inner selves with hope.
Beautiful compassionate words, Swarmite. I salute you!
While I can understand he doesn’t want to perform at this time, and wishes to be alone, that could be a bad thing. I hope he is not so withdrawn that friends who care can’t reach him.
I can only offer my condolences to all the people and loved ones involved.
I echo Abi1975′s statement “If your having thought about taking your own life please seek help now, don’t suffer in silence” however as someone who has suffered for years from depression and suicidal thoughts and urges, I’m sad to report that actually getting any help or support can often be VERY difficult indeed. I haven’t managed it.
I ended a relationship when I discovered the extent of his cocaine addiction. He ended his life about a year later (not because of me). At his funeral were 200 people who loved him. It’s the most pointless funeral I have attended.
Judge the addiction, not the person.
Beautiful words swarmite.
RIP, This Is Not Just A “Gay” Issue.
Love Is Love.