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  1. Oh this happens more often than you would ever believe. I’ve seen staff in Sainsbury’s at Ladbroke Grove in west London refer to guys as ‘batty boys’ I have reported the matter to the management who seem to address the issue. I think more of us need to come forward and stand up to these bigots.

    If there are is any homophobia you could also ask your police CSU (community support unit) to investigate the matter. Remember, its what you perceive has being homophobic that may be an offence.

    I don’t think Tesco would like that kind of attention.

    Again its not uncommon to hear other customers make homophobic remarks


  2. Sadly, the last time I had to take any action, it was in respect of a police officer. The phobic behaviour can be found anywhere.

  3. could the “gay boy” have been just that? A gay boy? not very professional, I grant you, to call that out in the middle of the shop but nothing to shout about (if he is a gay boy).

  4. Vincent Poffley 4 Aug 2009, 6:28pm

    Even if the other staff member was gay, it’s still not on. Would it have been okay if they were black and the checkout assistant had shouted “Oi, Blackie”? Or if they were disabled and it was “Oi, cripple”?

  5. I live in Milton Keynes so I will be keeping my ears open in future.

    But Milton Keynes is a very tolerant place so this surprises me.

    I have also passed this on to the local press to keep the pressure up.

  6. “could the “gay boy” have been just that? A gay boy?”

    Yes, if you think its okay to refer to a working colleague as “the black one”. People have names. Gay boy isn’t one of them, even if he is gay.

  7. A Tesco spokesperson told LGF: “This behaviour will not be tolerated in any way. The matter has been dealt with internally.”

    Just like it was after the first incident? I go to Tesco all the time, I’m really disappointed about this, that they can’t deal with homophobia properly.

  8. Unfortunately I think homophobia is widespread, and seems to be accepted even in supposedly tolerant cities like London, school kids are particularly bad. I was on the bus the other day and there was a group of kids making the most vile homophobic comments. There was a teacher or supervisor with them, and she made no effort to challenge or stop them. What does that teach them? If they had been making negative comments about any other minority, I doubt they would have got away with it.

  9. The Girls should shop at waitrose; they seem to be very gay freindly (and seem to employ more goodlooking male staff than the average!)

  10. Well done, girls! I wonder if so many of us men would be as plucky as you have been!

    And don’t go shopping at another supermarket, as suggested above. Stick with that Tescos, girls, until the message is hammered into the brains of those staff members who are indulging in homophobic behaviour. They need to be educated. We get nowhere if we get up and run all the time to somewhere where it’s safe.

    We all use supermarkets and the role of the supermarket in the morality of the nation shouldn’t be underestimated. The courtesies which are, or are not, expressed at the tills are very indicative of local attitudes. For example, at one Co-op supermarket that my partner and I have used nearly all the assistants have been very accepting, the middle-aged women in particular being clearly supportive, with the young guys being clearly OK with it though a little wary. However, at a Tesco we use it’s like they are all stuck in a 1950s warp, where everything must be seen to be white and straight and completely without flare or colour. Our cheery behaviour at the tills there never gets any kind of positive response.

  11. I had an interview and I overheard one of the staff calling a guy a gayboy
    I weren’t sure what to do but I wasn’t happy
    the interviewer was not very nice

  12. Every little bit helps? Here my little bit about what Tesco can do with their bill:

    What can a goose do, that a duck can’t do and a lawyer should do?

    Stick his bill up his ass.

  13. Tiglathpileser 5 Aug 2009, 11:56am

    If there are is any homophobia
    has being homophobic
    make homophobic remarks
    The phobic behaviour can be found anywhere.
    can’t deal with homophobia properly.
    homophobia is widespread
    most vile homophobic comments
    indulging in homophobic behaviour.

    It seems to me that you are very heterophobic. Despite everything that has been said, there does not seem to be any evidence at all that the people you are talking about are afraid of homosexuals which is what homophbia means.

    I am so surprise that you are still peddling the lie that because someone doesn’t agree with you or doesn’t treat you in the way that suits you they are afraid of you.

    Most people that do what you said they do would not do it if they were afraid of you bearing in mind your penchant to retaliate with violence.

  14. I have a trans friend (post-surgery, male-to-female) who experienced trans-phobia in our local Morrisons. When paying for her groceries at the checkout, the girl at the counter (in her early twenties) said “that will cost £xxxx SIR”, placing strong emphasis on the word “sir”. My friend said “excuse me”, the girl repeated “that’ll be £xxxx SIR”. My friend could hardly believe her ears.

  15. Jean-Paul 5 Aug 2009, 1:41pm


    There you are you snake. Here’s one about you and your pal, David ASkinner. It’s called “Blind Pilots”:

    One day at a busy airport, the passengers on a commercial airliner are seated, waiting for the cockpit crew to show up so they can get under way.

    The pilot and copilot finally appear in the rear of the plane, and begin walking up to the cockpit through the center aisle.

    Both appear to be blind. The pilot is using a white cane, bumping into passengers right and left as he stumbles down the aisle, and the copilot is using a guide dog. Both have their eyes covered with huge sunglasses.

    At first the passengers do not react; thinking that it must be some sort of practical joke. However, after a few minutes the engines start revving and the airplane starts moving down the runway.

    The passengers look at each other with some uneasiness, whispering among themselves and looking desperately to the stewardesses for reassurance.

    Then the airplane starts accelerating rapidly and people begin panicking. Some passengers are praying, and as the plane gets closer and closer to the end of the runway, the voices are becoming more and more hysterical.

    Finally, when the airplane has less than 20 feet of runway left, there is a sudden change in the pitch of the shouts as everyone screams at once, and at the very last moment the airplane lifts off and is airborne.

    Up in the cockpit, the copilot breathes a sigh of relief and turns to the pilot: “You know, one of these days the passengers aren’t going to scream, and we’re gonna get killed!

  16. Tiglathpileser

    The reason you do not recognise the “Homophobic Harrassemnt” in these news accounts is because you think you can come onto this thread, and then Harrass any one who does not hold your Antigay, Exgay, Homophobic Heterocentric Fundamentailst Christian mind set

  17. Jean-Paul 5 Aug 2009, 1:55pm

    Everyone on this thread should know that we are being visited by an ex-gay fundamentalist redneck wise-ass know-it-all bigot who calles itself Tiglathpileser on post 13.

    “It” has formerly called itself Sugar Plum Fairy, Stewart Cowan, and Monkeychops; and is a dear friend and associate of our very own David Skinner who will be here soon, no doubt.

    Stick aroung, Tiggy, we can use some entertainment this afternoon, and you can count on my accepting your invitation to be as flippant as I want to be, ha ha ha.

  18. Jean-Paul a.k.a. Bentham 5 Aug 2009, 1:58pm

    John K:


  19. I would like to confirm Jean-Pauls astute observations about Tiglathpileser’s Transmogrifications.

    Even though this person is a bit of a shape shifter what is consistent is that this person
    * Only has one story
    * Only has one message
    * Only has one entrenched position

    Health Warning Alert . . . antivenom avialble at your nearest pharmacy incase you get bitten.

  20. Eddie, Women in their late 30s are not ‘girls’!

  21. It is vital that all homophobic remarks, taunts etc are reported to the police or whoever is prepared to do something about stopping it. The Tiglathpileser and David Skinners of the world are very clear reminders that we still have someway to go before we are rid of the foul stench of their homophobic breath and the vile excrement that pours forth from their mouths. If I am heterophobic then I have f**king reason to be. I walk down a street in a town in Poland and I am called faggot, gay, and other names applicable to the level of the mentality of the people saying it. I do not have recourse to the police. I don’t have any gay support groups to go to I have to endure and put up with the shit that is thrown at me. So Tiglathpileser take your disgusting your homophobia off this thread and every other thread. Just f**k off.

  22. The C*nt of Monte Crisco 5 Aug 2009, 3:09pm

    I got somebody cautioned in Sutton high street once cos he called me a big fat dyke – fortunately in ear shot of a couple of uniformed cops :)

  23. Haslucks, #20, of course women in their 30s are not girls! But what do you say when you’re out round town, speaking casually to your female friends? Do you call out, “C’mon, into the taxi, women!”? “Ladies” isn’t acceptable to a lot of females these days, as I am sure you know. But older females usually don’t mind being called “gals” and older male usually don’t mind being called “boys”!

    But I do know what you mean. Sometimes I feel miffed when heterosexual workmen we have to the house say things like “What’s the problem, boys?” or “See you tomorrow morning then, boys!” Sometimes you wonder if it’s their way of avoiding the fact that they are dealing with two grown up MEN who are (shriek, shriek) co-habiting!!!!!

  24. Pumpkin Pie 5 Aug 2009, 6:22pm

    “It” has formerly called itself Sugar Plum Fairy, Stewart Cowan, and Monkeychops; and is a dear friend and associate of our very own David Skinner who will be here soon, no doubt.

    Wait a sec, Monkeychops is openly gay. As much as I like to rag on him, he’s not one of those ex-gay weirdos. He’s just a misanthropic tame queer. Pretty much like RobN. In fact, a little nicer than RobN. If you’re gonna put Monkeychops on that list, Rob should go on, too. It’s only fair.

    Up in the cockpit, the copilot breathes a sigh of relief and turns to the pilot: “You know, one of these days the passengers aren’t going to scream, and we’re gonna get killed!

    That was fantastic. Where’d you get it from? Complacency is such a huge problem in this world, so that little gag really made me smile. Complacency is not just in terms of persecuted minorities being silent, but also in majorities not confronting underlying issues which sully their nations.

  25. Jean-Paul a.k.a. Bentham 5 Aug 2009, 7:08pm

    Pumpkin Pie:

    Don’t you remember that it was you who first called Monketchops homophobic after he made some crack to you about your sexual orientation. I picked up on it right away, read the whole thread and decided you had outed “it” as an ex-gay fundamentalist bigot.

    It was you, Pumpkin Pie, and I remember asking you not to answer any more of his personal questions concerning your private life.
    After that, you clammed up for two or three weeks while Adrian and the others checked “it” out, but “it” managed to fool them.

    I don’t mean to say ‘I told you so’, but I continued calling “it” an imposter while “it” found “its” way into everybody’s trusting friendship. Then, when “it” knew all about us, “it” vanished as quickly as “it” had parachuted in, with a profile on each of us.

    Two weeks ago, “it” re-appeared using the name of “Stewart Cowan”. “It” was crushed by John M.J. and disappeared again only to re-appear as Sugar Plum Fairy along with David Skinner this time.

    And now, “it”‘s right back where “it” started…on a thread with you, and “it” knows everything you were sweet enough to tell “it” about your intimate life, and you know nothing about “it” except what John K and I are telling you now.

    “It” may have told you “it” was openly gay, and “it” was at one time before “it” met you, but now “it”‘s openly ex-gay fundamentalist homophobic bigot just like you had said at one point.

    Are you seriously telling me that you don’t remember that? C’mon. What’s it going to take for you to recognize a writing style. All of “it”‘s writing styles are identical because only an expert or a fraude can and will change a writing style.

    “It” had everybody fooled. Same sleazy, know-it-all style, like somebody stoned on camel sh*t. “It” belongs in a rubber room.

  26. Jean-Paul a.k.a. Bentham 5 Aug 2009, 7:19pm

    Pumpkin Pie:

    Here’s one for you, buddy:

    What has one horn and gives milk?

    A milk truck.

    I got a million ‘o them. Why? Because I like to laugh. Why? Because laughter is the best medicine! Ha ha ha!!!

  27. One of my friends often gets mistaken for a boy. Well,she does wear boy clothes. Dont think she takes it personaly though.
    But the though of a shop assistant shouting out ‘gay boy’ is just so cringe-worthy.
    Would not happen at Waitrose Im sure.

  28. “Most people that do what you said they do [homophobia] would not do it if they were afraid of you”

    You’re right – they do it out of pure hatred. Or they’re so insecure of their manhood they have to resort to belittling gay people.


  29. Jean-Paul a.k.a. Bentham 6 Aug 2009, 2:12am

    Careful, Tiggy will believe anything he reads.

    A police dog responds to an ad for work with the FBI.

    “Well,” says the personnel director, “You’ll have to meet some strict requirements. First, you must type at least 60 words per minute.”

    Sitting down at the typewriter, the dog types out 80 words per minute.

    “Also,” says the director, “You must pass a physical and complete the obstacle course.”

    This perfect canine specimen finishes the course in record time.

    “There’s one last requirement,” the director continues; “you must be bilingual.”

    With confidence, the dog looks up at him and says, “Meow!”

  30. Pumpkin Pie, your subtle and perspicacious categorization “He’s just a misanthropic tame queer. Pretty much like RobN. In fact, a little nicer than RobN. If you’re gonna put Monkeychops on that list, Rob should go on, too. It’s only fair” is very impressive!

    Jean-Paul, re. #26, bravo for keeping tabs, keeping notes, so as to keep the shape-shifters on the radar! And, JP, you shape-shifted yourself a little for a while under the name of Bentham – during which time I almost told you I loved you! :-)

  31. Stweart Cowan, who I believe sells flags of the world for a living in scotland, is nothing to do with Sugar Plum Fairy.

  32. Pumpkin Pie: I dispute I am misanthropic, I just think you are all a bunch of c*nts.

  33. Jean-Paul a.k.a. Bentham 6 Aug 2009, 7:16pm


    As a Frenchman who would climb Kilimanjoro naked and on his knees to hear the word ‘love’, I am always vulnerable even though my personal 19-year same-sex relationship has never been as satifying and fulfilling as it is now.

    I have loved you, from the very first, even through bits of stormy weather. Also, I know that you yourself are happily entwined with a partner who appears to be both exotic and gentle by the way you have share brief insights into your personal life.

    It was not as an attempt to deceive anyone that I began to use the pseudonym of Bentham. Briefly, my comments began to be rejected every time I was using ‘Jean-Paul’. I did not understand why. I tried entering ‘Bentham’ with an alternate e-mail address and presto, problem solved. It never occured to me that anybody would care one way or another.

    However, I did notice that the guys and gals were a tad more at ease with’Bentham’ than with ‘Jean-Paul’. I’ve grown up here in Canada in a completely bilingual and bi-cultural environment, but it’s plain to me, and I do not mean to pass judgement on anyone, that native Englishmen can be uncomfortable with someone of French origin.

    Just the other day, annoyed with having to post under a false name very much as Sugar Plum does intentionally to deceive, I attempted to post using my own name, and I am delighted to see that my comments are now being accepted and posted.

    It is my understanding that computer programs experience unexpected glitches for the simplest of reasons beginning with a sudden change in atmospheric pressure to dust in the keyboards. Whether this is true or not is beside the point; I refuse to beleive that a site as enriching as PinkNews could have intentionally censored me or anyone else for that matter while at the same time allowing homophobes the right of free speech on its threads.

    Incidently, Jeremy Bentham is an old hero of mine from the time I was studying the history of the devolopment of human thought in wWestern Civilisation (philosophy). It was Bentham who explained homophobia as similar to an irrational fear of spiders, a rather simplistic theory by today’s standards.

    At the time I thought that was an honest and rational effort to advance the classical notion of the beneficial effects of same-sex attachments, e.g Plato’s Symposium.

    Also, did you know that it was Bentham who designed the architecture of modern maximun security prisons? He also had himself stuffed and mounted in aglass cage…a wierd bird, if you like, but I have always found eccentricies interesting, and usually harmless.

    Enfin, I don’t know how to insert a smiling face into my comments, but you can take it for granted that a smile is more constantly on my face than a frown. Ha ha.

  34. Jean-Paul a.k.a. Bentham 6 Aug 2009, 7:22pm


    Thanks for correcting me, about stewart Cowan, I mean.

    Unlike you (you’re going to hate me for this) I find it impossible to be both good-looking and intelligent at the same time. Arf arf. ha ha.

  35. Jean-Paul a.k.a. Bentham 6 Aug 2009, 7:25pm


    I don’t care what anybody says, you are undoubtedly my favorite eccentric!! And that ain’t about to change, as long as you don’t change.

  36. Andie Trinder-Whittle 6 Aug 2009, 8:04pm

    Hey there everyone,
    Thanks for your support on this issue it was great to hear your suggestions (I am shopping in Waitrose and you are right they are far more Gay Friendly!). It also helped to hear I am not the only one to have experienced this kind of in your face homophobia from a supposed ‘Service Provider’ as big as Tesco.

    Just to clarify..the young Gay guy was most likely not Gay unless My Trusty Gaydar has packed up completely ..I think the operator was just being obnoxious! And the first Guy I mentioned in the article, I told him at the time that he was offensive and upset my wife and that he shouldnt make assumptions, he just smiled sarcastically and didnt even offer an apology when I told him I was offended.
    To be honest I really felt like punching him for upsetting my wife, but I am a bigger person that that and decided to give them the opportunity to sort it out. They didnt really though did they…a £20 gift voucher..hey!
    Whatever they did , certainly did not stop it happening again! To add insult to injury every time they said they would call they didnt and when I told the General Manager.. he said He understood if I never wantd to shop in his store again! Great news!

    Anyway just wanted to say thanks again for the support.

    Andie Trinder-Whittle

  37. Andie, nice to hear from you here. Keep calling in.

    Jean-Paul, thanks for the message! Be aware that Pink News DOES occasionally censor this pages. Unbelieveable, yes, but true, I am afraid. Last week I got censored. My ID and email address was blacklisted so I couldn’t post, and two of my messages were deleted. However, a person at PinkNews emailed me to tell me why she felt reason for taking this action. After a week I discovered my ID and email address had been removed from the blacklist. (The reason for my removal was my bringing attention to the fact that a quote given by PinkNews was actually not a quote of what a person had said.) Anyway, the incident revealed that there is “moderation” going on. I think it probably explains why certain trolls have to keep changing their names: it’s because PinkNews blacklists them and their only option is to take a new identity.


  38. “people you are talking about are afraid of homosexuals which is what homophbia [sic] means.”

    Again, we see another stunning rendition of the appalling level of education of this Tiglathpileser. Maybe swap one of those bibles for a dictionary, hmmm?

    Lets educate him, shall we? (Not for the first, or last time either)

    Pronunciation: \ˌhō-mə-ˈfō-bē-ə\
    Function: noun
    Irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals

    Notice the words “irrational” and “discrimination” here in this dictionary definition of the word you clearly don’t understand? As you have shown more than once, and quite splendidly, you are “irrational” in your thoughts, your beliefs, and your attitude to gay people. Hence leading to “discriminatory” behaviour.

    Real world example for you, you thick fuck:- Like it is “irrational” to be on a gay site protesting about what you neither understand or should care to understand, by using “discriminatory” and “irrational” lies in lieu of proof.

    I suppose this is what you get when you buy your third rate “degrees” from NARTH…. bumbling stupidity in a public forum to astound us all. Well done, well done indeed!

  39. Pumpkin Pie 7 Aug 2009, 7:24pm

    Jean-Paul: Sure, Monkeychops is homophobic, but so is RobN! Thanks for the chuckles, too!
    Eddy: Thanks! The only good labels are ones that sound nice!
    RobN: I suppose “misanthrope” is a bit stuffy sounding, isn’t it?

  40. Jean-Paul a.k.a. Bentham 8 Aug 2009, 3:43pm

    Pumpkin Pie:

    Thank for re-thinking your opinion on Monkeychops.

    As For RobN, he is definetely not homophobic; he is his own man; I often wished I had had the guts to stand up to a bunch of guys as fearlessly as he does when I was growing up.

    I know he can be be annoying; he knows it too. Who cares. I like him as much as I like you. In fact, here’s another one just for you, buddy:

    How many fundamentalists does it take to change a light bulb?

    Who cares? They’re in the dark if they change the bulb or not.

    Yuk yuk.

  41. If you wan’t equality, try shopping in my local Somerfield, they treat every customer the same, like sh*t!

  42. “I suppose “misanthrope” is a bit stuffy sounding, isn’t it?”

    Quite. When it comes to RobN and his attitude, I prefer the term “complete and utter arsehole with no friends”.

    More contemporary, don’t you think?

  43. Pumpkin Pie 10 Aug 2009, 3:41am

    Doh-ho-ho! Ah, funny thread is funny. :)

  44. Jean-Paul a.k.a. Bentham 10 Aug 2009, 3:56pm


    I’m a friend of RobN’s. How many friends do you have on this thread?

    In fact, isn’t your real name Tiglathpileser? You know, the guy who likes to stab other gays instead of supporting them like friends do.

  45. “I’m a friend of RobN’s. How many friends do you have on this thread?”

    What are you, 5 years old? Grow up.

    An old Chinese Proverb: “A man should choose a friend who is better than himself.”

    And RobN is a prize arsehole, a racist, and basically a gay homophobe (for what of a better term)…. where does that pout you in your choice of “friends”, eh?

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